I’m 27F and have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for a few months now. He’s honestly a great guy mature, emotionally available, really smart. I care about him a lot and genuinely want good things for him. I’m also super attached to him.
But lately, I’ve been feeling kind of emotionally numb… not just with him, but in general. I don’t feel super connected to anything or anyone, not even my dog (which is weird for me). It’s like I’m just detached from everything, and I’m scared that I don’t know how I really feel anymore.
We’re in a relationship that’s starting to get serious. I don’t want to waste his time or lead him on if I’m not sure. I’m happy with him and I don’t want anyone else but at the same time, I don’t feel the same level of intense feelings I did before.
Is this just a phase? Is it normal for feelings to settle down like this? Or is it a sign that I’m not actually in love?
I’d love some honest advice or to hear if anyone’s been through something similar.
TL;DR — Been with my boyfriend a few months. He’s great and I care about him, but I feel emotionally numb lately and don’t know if it’s real love or just attachment.
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Have you felt like this before? Do you have history of depression?
Do you feel like you’ve lost some parts of yourself in the relationship? Are there things you used to love that you don’t do anymore?
Maybe the honeymoon phase is ending and you’re coming down from that high? Talking to your partner about it could be a good start.
No one else is attractive to you