Some months ago my girl started to work at my house as a babykeeper to my nephew and since then she spends the entire day here. She comes at 7AM and leaves at 11PM, even tho she only works until 5PM. I work part-time from 2-7PM, so I can be with her at morning and night. But since then we’ve been spending all of our time together. Don’t get me wrong, i love spending time with my girl, but i do not do nothing anymore, I used to like to draw and edit videos, but now I don’t have time to do that cause when i’m not working i have to give attencion to my girl.
It may seen like i’m creating myself this problem and could still be doing the things I enjoy, but when I tried to do that and tell her that sometimes I want to do other thing she got upset and sad. For example, today when i came home from work we spent the entire day cooking, doing groceries and watching shows together, but at night she wanted to make some food and have me watching her, and I said I wanted to go to my computer and write a video i want to work in. Then she got all sad and didn’t even want to cook anymore. I tried to cheer her up but she started to just scroll her phone and ignore me. Then she got home and texted me she wanted to k*ll herself and I don’t know what to do. I love my girl and don’t want to see her sad, but I also need my own space sometimes. 🙁
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Your girlfriend threatening suicide is emotional manipulation, and that’s not okay. You have a right to time to yourself and to enjoy your hobbies. Sit down with her and let her know that you need some time alone sometimes – see if you can work out a schedule where certain days she’ll go home when she gets off work at 5, so you can spend the evening doing your art and enjoying some ‘me time’.
I understand that you don’t want to upset her, but that’s likely unavoidable here. Part of adult relationships means communicating with each other, saying what each of you want and need, and listening to your partner’s needs. You need time alone to do your art, and she’s not wanting to hear that, so you need to say it clearly and then enforce it. Send her home with the assurance that you care about her, but you also have your own hobbies and interests, and you’re not going to give those up for her. Should she ever text you about suicide again, call the police to do a welfare check on her.
She’s very emotionally immature. Probably shouldn’t be in a relationship.
The suicidal threats are manipulation. It also shows signs she may be mentally unstable be careful. Peace
If she’s threatening suicide, whether or not it’s an act of manipulation, I doubt the parents of the baby she’s watching would be ok with her taking care of their child. She sounds immature and unstable.