I’m 18, shy and too scared to date around.
I’ve been relying more and more on different types of porn and I can’t quit, I’m struggling to sleep and it’s become a huge problem, please give me real advice.
How do I quit porn?
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I’m 18, shy and too scared to date around.
I’ve been relying more and more on different types of porn and I can’t quit, I’m struggling to sleep and it’s become a huge problem, please give me real advice.
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How has it become a problem? In what ways has it impacted your life negatively?
Once a quitter, you’ll always be a quitter.
Gym, keeps ur mind distracted. Not just porn
Get yourself something to do that will fit in when you used to do porn. If you do porn on your phone then do something else in that time like games, or Reddit different topics
smoke a penjamin before bed
Go to church
Honestly I’m 17 and I think the best way is to make yourself tired by other habits such as sports, excelling in cooking or get your grades at the best of you still study, maybe hangout with friends more and make yourself so tired when you get home the first thing you wanna do is just lay down anywhere and instantly fall asleep. Make progress in overtime. And distract yourself but you will need discipline too. I mean beating it sometimes is completly fine but like if it costs many other things of your life? That’s when it doesn’t benefit anything but puts you in a dept. Imo if you manage to do this you will end up well. Oh and ofc and when you catch yourself being in the mood just fr do as much push ups as much you can if you still feel like doin it you didn’t do enough push ups xd. It worked for me and don’t be emberassed by the push ups fr. If you can’t do push ups somehow cuz u managed to find a place where you can’t, just be creative go outside or somewhere else and do push ups but in long run the first part will help you more. Belive me after a week passed without even one you will know that you don’t need porn to beat it. Your fckin imagination is better than deep nude (just repeating what my father said once) XD. Now good luck homie
Find someone to flirt sexually with and regularly text him thru the day. Make it someone remote so there’s no in-person awkwardness (and you don’t have to limit yourself geographically). Hell find 10 of them.
When you feel horny, text them while you’re on the go. Talk dirty, talk fantasies, etc..
No need to worry about them being a BF, vetting them, shyness, etc… and men will line up.
They might help fill the void you’re currently filling with porn.
I was addicted for years. Been off it about a month now. Idk what made me stop but I just one day stopped and it turned to a week. And any urges I would see ( posts with ph stars or women showing their body off, etc) I would immediately swipe off. There were times I felt the urge to but didn’t bc I didn’t want to ruin my streak and kept that in mind. “ it’s been 2 weeks and I don’t want to ruin it”. Also I just think about how I feel right after and how shitty I would feel if I did. Like oh I just ruined my x amt streak and stuff. Occupying yourself as well helps ofc
Find a tiring job that requires hard labour and physical strength, you’ll be so done to think of porn
Could give easypeasymethod.org a try, I’ve heard good things of it.
Why do you want to quit porn?
For me I found limiting myself via blockers and such really helped. An app called xblocker is one I recommend. If you try and search anything related to p___ it’ll close the windown and remind you that you want to stop. It’ll be hard at first but after sometime the urges die down. The apps free but do be careful, if you type the wrong word in an my scenario so even in chats it will appear and a few times I’ve gotten soft locked out of Instagram chats and been forced to uninstall it then reinstall once I’ve removed the word or gotten it off the screen haha.
You can also pay for features on the app that make it impossible to install and such.
Are you masturbating or just watching porn?
If you are masturbating I would say to do so without the porn so that there is less urge to watch. Once you break the link it may be easier to quit.
Start reading erotica
Tell your agent not to accept any more offers.
Record yourself watching and share it with everyone you know
You’re 18.. you’re supposed to be a horny teen it’s your hormones. Find someone and make your dreams come true.
Stop taking jobs?
First, write with actual grammar or else you are a bot.
Hey mate, I was addicted to pornography for a long time (age 11 until 18, currently 20m). I spent the latter 6 years of my addiction trying to quit over and over.
This is going to be one of the hardest things you will ever do. I have been addicted to physical substances before, this is much harder to quit.
Here’s what helped me:
Not one single method worked until I told someone. I finally talked to my best friend only to find out he also had that issue. We decided to be honest with each other, and tell each other anytime we relapsed (within a day or two, no exceptions).
Shame is stopping you from getting better.
Guilt will help you get better.
Feeling shameful makes you want to hide it away, guilty makes you want to change for the better.
I lied to my best friend a lot for the first few months until I broke down and told him I had lied and I kept relapsing. It was not until I finally was honest with MYSELF and with someone else that I was able to hold myself accountable. Doing this alone is impossible in my opinion. The fear of judgement sucks, but I feel you need to know “shit, if I do it now, I have to tell him tomorrow”
We also texted EVERY SINGLE DAY as a check in. no excuses. Every fucking day. It takes 5 minutes to relapse and feel like you may as well give up again.
My DMs are open if you’d like to know more about my journey.
Pro tip: don’t ever take your phone into a bathroom with you ever again. Don’t sleep with it in your room. No matter what. Charge it in the hallway, kitchen, living room, garage, anywhere else but your room
Hey mate, I was addicted to pornography for a long time (age 11 until 18, currently 20m). I spent the latter 6 years of my addiction trying to quit over and over.
This is going to be one of the hardest things you will ever do. I have been addicted to physical substances before, this is much harder to quit.
Here’s what helped me:
Not one single method worked until I told someone. I finally talked to my best friend only to find out he also had that issue. We decided to be honest with each other, and tell each other anytime we relapsed (within a day or two, no exceptions).
Shame is stopping you from getting better.
Guilt will help you get better.
Feeling shameful makes you want to hide it away, guilty makes you want to change for the better.
I lied to my best friend a lot for the first few months until I broke down and told him I had lied and I kept relapsing. It was not until I finally was honest with MYSELF and with someone else that I was able to hold myself accountable. Doing this alone is impossible in my opinion. The fear of judgement sucks, but I feel you need to know “shit, if I do it now, I have to tell him tomorrow”
We also texted EVERY SINGLE DAY as a check in. no excuses. Every fucking day. It takes 5 minutes to relapse and feel like you may as well give up again.
My DMs are open if you’d like to know more about my journey.
Pro tip: don’t ever take your phone into a bathroom with you ever again. Don’t sleep with it in your room. No matter what. Charge it in the hallway, kitchen, living room, garage, anywhere else but your room
Move deep into the mountains where internet service and electricity fail you. Build a log cabin, fish in the river and forage from the blueberry groves. Drink white pine tea with your morning salmon and potatoes from your personal potato farm. Feel the wind in your hair and smell the flowers produced by the wild plants. Befriend a bear and wrestle him for daily exercise. Name your bear friend fozzy and grow old together under the great expansive sky. Die happy and content at having not continued your consumption of pornography.
Or you can permanently block porn so you can’t access it and you can’t undo your choice to block it. People in r/pornfree discuss this fairly frequently and they have a “how to” video floating around somewhere so you can’t undo your choice.
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