I wanna start making my own decisions. How do I do that? How do I develop confidence in trusting myself without outside validation?
I wanna start making my own decisions. How do I do that? How do I develop confidence in trusting myself without outside validation?
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By asking yourself and making your own choices without involving others’ inputs. It takes practice.
Sometimes we are fortunate and have good friends or comrades who are both in a safe mental space to hear our problems, and also willing to share relevant and useful advice.
Most of the time this is not the case, though. So learning to make your own decisions is great.
My advice for starting would be to imagine the outcome of any decision you make. If it’s about quitting a job, for example… If you were to stay, what would that look like for you? If you were to leave, where would you go? What would the outcome of that be? Take your time to think of both immediate and long-term answers, as well as emotional and physical, financial, etc.
I think the hardest part is taking the emotions out of any of these situations when you’re stuck paralyzed with indecision . That is personally when I find myself seeking others input about what I should do. But if I was able to sit with the emotions over the course of a few days (or even weeks) and set them aside, I would then be able to logically make my own answers to things.
Edit to add: if you take the time to do the above advice , and really try to work through outcomes to your decisions that you’re stuck on… And then if you do bring these to a friend or family member for advice, you will have a significantly more in depth and helpful conversation on your hands than if it was a purely emotional decision paralysis moment on your part. Whether or not this will guarantee a solution for you, it will definitely help.
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