I tried talking to previous therapists about this but they didn’t offer any helpful advice. I am a bisexual man and have had nothing but shitty relationships with both genders.
I prefer men more than women , however. I feel like I am afraid to get into a relationship at this point because they seem too hard. I have never had a relationship that felt “right”. It seems like they have too much drama and arguing. Also, I find that most people never get the amount of sex in a relationship that they desire and eventually the sex life dies off altogether.
I constantly fantasize about having a boyfriend, but then I realize that everyone including me is fucked up in some ways. I feel like anyone I get with will hurt me because that’s what I have been taught. It seems that relationships have more headaches than good times. Every relationship I have been in , I was verbally or emotionally abused. I am starting to think relationships may not be for me. I do admit that I enjoy having a peaceful , quiet home to come home too like I do now. I love living alone.
What are your thoughts on all this ?
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I think maybe rather than trying to get into a relationship or trying to avoid a relationship that it might be more fun to try and enjoy meeting people and going on dates. See someone more often if they’re respectful and you have a fun time with them, don’t pursue things with people who are taking their issues out on you. For sure everyone is messed up in some way or another, but some people are somewhat self aware and try to be kind to others. They definitely exist. Being single is great though. I would say get really comfortable with being single and then only let other people in to the extent that they’re improving your life.
I’m in the same situation except I’m the female and my partner seems to be confused.
The more I went back to him the more I was able to learn about myself and grow. It is time for me to leave though now that I know he’ll never respect women. Take your lessons and go.
But give yourself time to feel comfortable again. And then get back out there!! Don’t let anyone get in the way of finding the love you desire! If anything it help me practice rejection, it’s not personal.