I hate it.
I drop things. I forget literally everything all over the place. I don’t do any of this on purpose.
I keep my place clean I am hygienic. I am never a mess.
But good lord I almost always manage to make a total fool of myself by forgetting where I left the keys or left the window open or take a shower but forgot my towel better yet forgot to turn the shower knob to the tap so whoever uses the shower thinking that the tap will turn on, actually gets drenched thanks to how clumsy I am.
It is really mortifying sometimes. What the hell do I do?
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You’re not clumsy you’re a brain running on 27 tabs with no RAM left. Build rituals and backup systems like your life depends on it because chaos thrives where structure is missing.
How old are you? Seems like a dumbass question, but it could be very relevant
Do you maybe have ADHD? It can manifest in so many different ways.
I am exactly like what you describe, event though it got better with time. I spill my drink almost every time I’m eating, I randomly drop stuff that are in my hands, and I tend to have very short term memory issues.
Once I unlocked my bike and then I left with the lock in my hand and the bike still at the same place, it took me 10 minutes to realise :/
I was diagnosed with dyspraxia, and even though I’m much less clumsy than when I was younger, I’m still forgetting my stuff everywhere all the time, I’ve lost so many things over time :’)
A lot of actual conditions can cause this, don’t think it’s some sort of moral failing or that you’re not trying hard enough.
Dyspraxia (common with dyslexia and dyscalculia), ADHD, anxiety, hypermobility, even bad proprioception can mess you up like this.
Anyway, here’s a few things that worked for me. Try and make incremental changes rather than everything at once, let one habit stick before you try and acquire a new one.
Failsafes. Always put the most important things in the same place. If you’re at home, leave the keys in you bag or in a bowl. Write down things you need on your phone. Keep an accurate calendar and whenever a new date pops up, apply it to your calendar immediately.
Get bluetooth tags for important items, and set up find my phone.
Improve proprioception and balance. A couple of exercises I learned doing remedial massage: Draw the alphabet in the air with your big toe and watch it. This helps to calibrate your proprioception. For balance, do very small knee bends on one leg, then the other. Practice until you’re firm in this then stand on tip toe and get really good at that.
When you leave one space to go to another, don’t leave in a hurry. Give yourself 10 seconds to make sure everything is in its place, check if there was anything you wanted to take with you or things that might need addressing.
(most important) BE KIND TO YOURSELF. Cultivate a best mate voice in your head and do not allow insults in your self talk. I understand it’s super frustrating but you’ll be happier and more successful if you don’t have to put up with you bitching at yourself.
Hope that helps bud. If you notice it gets worse or new symptoms start do tell your GP.
Good luck in your mission!!
You’re not clumsy stuff like this is happening to almost everyone now adays
Stop overthinking and worrying about it sm
I would ask yourself why you feel like this is a negative thing.
I understand it effecting you in ways that are annoying to deal with (Im clumsy and sometimes just tired of cleaning the stuff I break/spill)
However, it sounds like this harsh view of yourself may be an external voice. I hope no one is saying these negative things to you to make you feel this way.
Even when clumsy and forgetful, you deserve grace and love.
The more nervous and stressed I am, the more I do these things. Be kind to yourself. Talk to yourself the way you would a child “It’s okay! Mistakes happen, you are responsible for what you do after. Clean this up, ask for help finding your things when you need it, etc.”
The saying “don’t cry over spilled milk” is popular for a reason. Best of luck 🩷