Lately it feels like everyone around me is leveling up like buying homes getting married or launching startups like all these stuff. Meanwhile I’m just trying to stay afloat with my current 9 to5 , build a proper emergency fund and just live a normal life, but seeing everyone do all this progress is just I don’t know how to explain it Last week I paid off part of my credit card and I felt really proud for a second but then started second guessing it because a friend said I should’ve “invested it instead into bitcoin” like mfer I have no idea how crypto even works and it just looks like I’m way behind of this stuff compared to my friends.
I’m really trying not to measure myself against everyone else’s timeline but it’s very hard and social media definitely doesn’t help either because everyone is posting all their successes all their vacations while I’m stuck working doing nothing and I just dont know how to deal with this constant pressure
How do I stop comparing my progress to everyone else’s?
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I’d cut down on all the content coming into your head if you’re going to let it get to you.
How old are you? I find it hard to believe everyone around you is progressing at such a clip. Everything else equal with the people who are? They didn’t get dealt a better hand?
Consider diversifying your environment. Volunteer somewhere is my advice.
Paying off debt is a real win, not a fake flex. Most people posting success are just hiding their mess better than you.
I believe we all possesses the endless building blocks to become a superhero, however we are largely limited by our perception of what we think we are capable of.
I am not sure how old you are but what happens is as you go through challenge after challenge in your life and you come out the other side you will start to gain confidence and grit, and more importantly Identity. You will start to separate yourself as an individual more and more.
You will also realize some people are more or less struggling on a far greater scale and just do their best to hide it. People like to only show their wins and not really their losses. This skews our perception of others capabilities and our own.
The way I overcame this struggle myself is I started building my own character, I stopped looking to get others to like me and I worked on liking me, now I am much more capable in my life and I can stand on my own two feet and think for myself and be super proud of who I am, and not in an I am better than you way. I am proud of myself and dont compare myself to others because I have become the source of problem solving for my peers and I view myself as a strong capable individual worth loving themselves.
This comes from struggles and really getting in your head and talking about this stuff, all while not trying to let the world make you a cold horrid person to be around.
Naah man, you are doing things you can. Buying homes, startups and stuff like that you could do it too if your family were rich or if you had a high paying job. I’m in the same shoes as you are as I see many of my friends buying their dream bike, going abroad for studies or buying homes. Just take your time and make sure you keep learning and improving yourself. The connections you make matters too. I learnt a lot of things myself while those things were taught to my friends by their families or other people. If we got no support we’ll have to do it ourselves. Just stop caring about what others do.