He broke up with me and it looks like he’s living his best life meeting a bunch of new girls and drinking every weekend at parties while I can’t even get myself to look at another guy. It just feels so unfair because we were so close and I thought he would never do something to hurt me.
How do I stop thinking about my ex
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What did you like to do before him?
What’s on your bucket list?
What would you like to learn new (dance, cooking?)
Keep your mind busy by building a better you. Focus on yourself. You’ll forget about him in no time
Perhaps this is the reason he broke up with you. Go live the life that would make him regret breaking up with you. Once you do, you’ll realize you don’t even need/want him anymore.
Focus on things that make you look and feel good. That confidence will have guys lining up for you and eventually, you’ll want to let someone in.
Living his best life by choosing to party and meet other women immediately after breaking up with you? Lol.. i was that guy after my first relationship of 4 years, and let me tell you, it definitely stunted my emotional growth as man and I had a lot of lessons to learn the hard way, he will too, but he needs to experience it and hopefully understands that if he put effort into loving himself instead he would grow and learn from his experiences at an astronomically faster rate.
You are so far ahead of him in life and deserve better.
You have the self awareness and emotional intelligence to learn from this, take your time to heal, forget about him, you’re worth it.
most things hardly look as they seem. chin up, life happens. focus on yourself and your hobbies, spend time with your family, and hit the gym. promise you’ll be feeling much better in no time.
Block him, you don’t need to see all that. Find your peace and happiness again.
I’m in a similar boat… went though a rough breakup in April, and I heard he already has a new gf… and I also can’t stop thinking about him, or even think about talking to other guys… you’re def not alone in this❤️
People dont heal by distracting themselves with alcohol or other partners. No one jumps to another person to directly address their raw emotions and conflicts from a breakup.
People heal by reflecting and addressing their hurt/pain alone when they are alone (you). And if they skip this process, then they never heal/change.
I know this going to get a lot of downvotes, but pray. After an emotional brutal breakup, I pray everyday morning and night. It has help me going forward
He is heartbroken by his actions but you need to grow, heal & move on. Just bc he’s acting out doesn’t mean he’s living his best life nor does it mean he wants to be back with you.