I recently started a new job and met this guy who seemed cool to talk to. He asked for my number, and now he’s been asking things like how I slept and sending me good morning/night texts, I HATE those messages. I’m not sure if he’s just being friendly or if he likes me. I’m not interested in dating him, but I also don’t want to assume his intentions. How can I let him know I’m not interested in that way without making things awkward?? I can’t just say “hey i’m not interested” since he never outright said he likes me in that way.
how do I tell a guy i’m not interested in a nice way?
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I dont think you can get out of this without it being awkward. It would be kinder, and i believe better for eveyone to take care of this sooner than later.
Just start talking about your boyfriend. And things you did with said boyfriend. Hopefully he gets the hint and the messages stop.
I think to let him know that you are dating someone and that someone doesn’t allow you to talk to guys
So you know if he has any intentions and in the same time he will get a step back
Just say you’re sorry but you’re not interested in a relationship or you’re not ready or in the right space. Let him down easy
To the OP:
Why would you give your number to a co-worker that you weren’t seriously interested in dating?
It’s now up to you to cut this off as quickly as possible, and as politely as possible.
He’ll get the message.
Good luck, ma’am.
Honestly, you can either tell him directly that you’re not interested.
Or if that’s uncomfortable just exhibit disinterest. Don’t be responsive. Answer questions at work directly, don’t ask questions of him unrelated to work. Basically you’re not doing any effort to keep a conversation alive.
He will get the hint and stop trying eventually, and if he doesn’t then maybe more of an HR issue.
Straightforward just tell him you know what you’re a good man I don’t look at you that way. Let’s just be friends and please respect my choice. Period.
Just be straight up with him and tell him you don’t really like all these “nice” texts everyday. Just be real with how you feel, and if he takes offense, that’s on him. But I bet he won’t text you anymore
I had an office job where a guy I barely knew, followed me out to my car. I said, ohhhh, sorry, I have a BF. But since you already gave him your number..(wait a week)…oh, so sorry, I started seeing someone. It was nice chatting.
Done.
Or say you’re into girls
Simply draw boundaries. ‘Hey, I enjoy our work convos, but I’d prefer to keep personal texts to a minimum.’ Clear, courteous, not assuming anything.
U-G-L-Y you ain’t got no alibi. You’re ugly! Yea yea, you’re ugly.. or something a little less direct
You could call him bro a lot, he should get the hint
Just start telling him about your dates or your made up boyfriend.
Tell him he’s a good friend
First of all he definitely likes you. These aren’t the kind of texts you send to platonic friends.Be honest, tell him you are not into him
god, I hate those texts too.
others gave good advice. don’t forget to reply back to the best ones with “helped” to give them credit
Just tell him. Be an adult! Be honest.
Hey, Just so we’re on the same page I really enjoy chatting as coworkers, but I’m not looking for anything beyond that
Literally what you just said: “I don’t want to assume your intentions, but I’ve been hearing from you a lot lately, and I don’t want there to be any confusion. You’re a nice person, but I’m not attracted to you. I don’t mind us chatting so long as you understand that I’m not interested in being anything more than friends.”
I know that may sound blunt, but if you make it sound like you may be attracted to him then he’s probably going to keep pushing (because you must be interested….you gave him your number, didn’t you?)
To avoid uncomfortable situations like this in the future, don’t give your number to guys unless you want them to think you’re into them. It shouldn’t be that way, but that’s what getting someone’s number means most of the time.
I don’t date colleagues.
Not interested and done. rip the bandaid off and done and that’s it your overthinking he’s a big boy!y be nice just say your not untested
That’s about as nice as it gets!
Just don’t text back unless it’s something about work. Ur not obligated to explain that ur interested or not interested.. why do u owe that to anyone? U didn’t invite that. U gave ur number to be nice and now it’s awkward. And if he asks u why u never respond? Say “I was busy”. Nuff said and he should get the hint. Unless he straight up says “do you want to date” THEN you say “I’m not interested”.
“I’m married to the sea” or “I’m not gay, but I’ll learn”
Not interested
KISS( keep it simple stupid not you ) it’s ez and if the feelings are hurt by the simple statement 🤷
Ask him for his opinion on what you should wear tonight on your date with Fred, who is this guy you have a major crush on.
Let him know that you prioritize boundaries and think that it would be important to set one with one with you and let him know that you don’t feel the same energy that he is putting out. And request that he stop contacting you in such a way.
I’m not interested.
Never assume a guy just wanted to be friends. Ever. They always seem to have a motive. If you are nice to them they think you are interested. If you pay them any attention at all.. then if you reject them they get angry and accuse you of leading them on and they are mean as. Even older males in positions of power. (Actually especially them)
Go completely cold, don’t laugh at jokes, don’t make eye contact, walk away when they are mid sentence. It’s the only way they understand. Being extremely direct and polite does not work.
It sux but it’s true.
ITT: a lot of people who have never had a human conversation before