Hi Reddit,
I’ve (F24) been dating my boyfriend (M24) a few months now.
In the past, I was hospitalized a few times due to an ED. I’ve been wanting to talk to him about it, but I’m not sure how to bring it up. I still carry a lot of shame and embarrassment, and it’s a really hard subject for me to talk about.
I do want him to know—this isn’t something I want to hide forever—but I’m scared he’ll see me differently or pull away. The thing is, he’s a very understanding and kind person, which makes me feel like I can tell him… I just don’t know how.
I’ve thought about sending a text, but I’m not sure if that’s too impersonal. Every time I try to bring it up in person, the words just won’t come out.
I’d really appreciate any advice on how to approach this—what to say, how to say it—because it’s been weighing on me a lot lately.
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Backup of the post’s body: Hi Reddit,
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a few months now.
In the past, I was hospitalized a few times due to an ED. I’ve been wanting to talk to him about it, but I’m not sure how to bring it up. I still carry a lot of shame and embarrassment, and it’s a really hard subject for me to talk about.
I do want him to know—this isn’t something I want to hide forever—but I’m scared he’ll see me differently or pull away. The thing is, he’s a very understanding and kind person, which makes me feel like I can tell him… I just don’t know how.
I’ve thought about sending a text, but I’m not sure if that’s too impersonal. Every time I try to bring it up in person, the words just won’t come out.
I’d really appreciate any advice on how to approach this—what to say, how to say it—because it’s been weighing on me a lot lately.
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I think knowing the genders is a pretty integral part of giving any advice to be honest. I’m just going to assume you’re a dude lol
You could write a letter, and either read it to him, or be there when he reads it (maybe while making coffee or dinner so you’re not just hovering). Doesn’t have to be super long, but that’s a bit more personal than a text, and a bit less intimidating than a face to face convo.
How old are you?
It’s not that hard to have a conversation with someone you care about. Just start the conversation. You’ve got this. 👌
Maybe just show him this post, it’s actually a pretty good start to a conversation. It’s obviously an important issue for you so if you don’t say anything soon it may eventually affect more areas of the relationship. If you’re worried it will affect the relationship negatively now, I don’t think the effects improve by delaying the conversation—there is no “better time.”
You need to talk about this in person. Don’t just send a text. Write some notes if you need to. Honestly it’s not something you need to be ashamed of.
You need to tell him OP, as in sasabihin with your own mouth, yong parang casual discussion lang, hindi yong pa-suspense naman yong atake mo, just say to him and see his reaction, malay mo maka-relate or he can even help you sa condition mo in a way na alam niya, hindi naman yan nakakahiya, for me, I will be surprised at first, but later on I will be curious to know more about what it feels to be having ED, para xmpre I will be aware of your condition on how I will react soon kapag umatake yan diba..