I (14M) have a YouTube channel with around 3k subs where I talk about history and geography. My parents support me making videos, but how to stop telling me they watch them, especially around their friends. Tonight, I was about to start editing and then I heard one of them reading a comment I left on my video. I ran in, and got embarrassed when they started talking about it, especially a pronunciation mistake I made, and I got embarrassed. Never mind the fact that I get embarrassed when they talk about my videos around them in the first place. Can someone just please tell me how I can tell my parents to not show my videos to their friends, or at least not make them talk about it?
How do I tell my parents to stop watching my YouTube videos?
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For what its worth, I think they’re proud of you – thats why they’re sharing it with people. However if you really want them to stop, just be honest about your feelings and tell them that you feel embarrassed.
It’ll be easier for you to learn to see their comments as appreciation for your work and wanting you to do well. It’s a losing battle to try and get them to stop. If you try that, you’ll end up with family trying to hide it from you and that’s worse. I understand not everybody has good families, but if you have one you’ll have an easier time if you focus on leaning on them then trying to keep them from enjoying your work.
It doesn’t sound to me from what you’ve said that they’re being overly critical of your videos. I get the sense that they’re just taking an interest in what you’re doing. If that’s the case then there’s not much you can do. I do get the irritation though.
Explain to them how this makes you feel and then ask them to not share your videos anymore. If they respected your feelings, they should understand and agree to do so.
They’re proud of you. Of course they’re going to watch them. But when you have a public YouTube channel for people to view your videos, anyone can watch. That comes with having a public channel.
They should be watching them love, they are your parents! Set some boundaries, that’s ok too! “I appreciate your support, but any feedback or attention makes me really uncomfortable, its both distracting and discouraging me”. Blessings and goodluck!
The idea of “making” them not talk about it is interesting since I’d think anyone who respected you enough would stop simply when asked, and not need to be forced.
What did they do when you asked?
Can’t you block them on YouTube?
This is time honored tradition of parents embarrassing their kids by being overly overjoyed about their art!
Way better than not seeing you or liking you…
It’s hard at your age to understand, but as a parent of a 13 year old, I think you should try and enjoy the fact your parents love it so much to want to watch. There are so many lousy folks and hurting kids with terrible parents that don’t love to share in their kids lives.
I will also say that if they care enough to want to watch them, they’ll care enough to listen about your embarrassment over them.
Be honest.
Sounds like they are supporting you and being that you are 14 they may be monitoring you as well, which is what a decent parent should do. But in all honesty, tell them how you feel about it but at the same time you cant really expect them or their friends to stop watching. Its on youtube so its public viewing. I think you are overthinking the situation too much. And as a mom ill be honest with you, if my kid asked me to stop watching then id probably continue watching just cause id feel as if they were trying to hide something. But explain to them how you feel but also listen to them on the topic as well.
Is there no block feature?
OP, if you’re uploading anything onto the internet, it’s for the world to see after that and no longer yours. If you don’t want your parents to watch your YouTube video, then you either stop uploading videos on YouTube or make your videos private, which defeats the purpose of uploading videos on YouTube in the first place.
With that being said, you should talk to your parents about it and see if you guys can compromise. Communication is always the key to any relationship, whether it’s with family or friends or coworkers.
Just tell them you appreciate their support but would appreciate it more if they could watch on their phone or tablet so you can’t hear it.
Someday, you are going to be very thankful that your parents supported your interests.
Aw, they love you! Out of all the things kiddos your age could make a youtube of, the fact that it’s history and geography is awesome and they are pleased about it. You really can’t control who watches your channel. And honestly, they should be aware of what you are posting anyhow because it’s their job to protect you and to help keep you safe on the internet.
Then I don’t know what you’re asking. It’s either online forever or it’s not. 🤷♀️ And you can’t be that secretive if you post shight publicly.
Oh no your horrible parents are supportive of you..how dare they …divorce them immediately
You can’t change other people, unless you’re super charismatic. But you can change yourself fairly easily. So just stop being embarrassed that your parents are so proud of you that they’re reading your words out loud and bragging about you to their friends.
i think you need to spend a day with kids who have abusive parents then maybe you’ll realise how silly you look with this post
Why would you be embarrassed about someone reading one of the comments on your channel?
Have you tried just asking them not to and explaining that you’re kind of embarrassed or uncomfortable about it while emphasizing that you appreciate their support and interest? You can’t make anyone change their behavior, but you can tell them how it makes you feel. What exactly about it makes you so uncomfortable, anyways?
OP. I’m a professional TV and video director and producer. I’ve been doing it for over 30 years. This is something you are going to have to get used to. And it’s also not going to get very much easier unfortunately.
Putting out any creative work is immensely difficult and brave. I’m so proud that you are working so hard on a passion. It’s an incredible thing to do at 14.
So do your best, check your work and stand tall.
You are strong, resilient and talented.
Oh and 3k subs, incredible!
I get it, this is a bit cringe. But you are going to need to toughen up. You are putting content out for the masses. That includes your parents and their friends.
Or make an alt account and start over.
The Internet is for everyone and it is forever.
You can ask them to stop or just deal with the fact they seem to be proud of you.
Or make a new account without telling them,
Or stop posting.
Make the second one rude porn.
Firstly, at 14 you shouldn’t be putting videos on YouTube without your parents’ supervision anyway.
Secondly, you’re uploading your videos to YouTube, it has a global audience. It is what it is.
Oh, teenagers.
When I was 15-17 I made YouTube videos and had about 2k subscribers. I also woke up early one morning and saw my dad watching one of my videos and I was embarrassed. I was pretty embarrassed about anybody finding out about them except for my close friends and strangers on the internet. For this reason I stopped making videos all together.
I’m 30 now and work a 9-5 while tons of YouTubers make insane amounts of money. Who knows if I would have ever made money but it kinda sucks knowing I quit trying. I say that to say, try to change your mindset on that and embrace your channel 100%. It’s a good thing your parents are supportive and want to share your videos. Take it as far as you can take it if it’s something you truly love doing
I hate to say it buddy but once you put public stuff on the Internet you are basically accepting that what happens after that is out of your control. Your best bet is to own it. Keep up the good work and over time you’ll gain enough confidence to never be embarrassed by it. The imposter syndrome goes away eventually.
I’ll be honest with you because you’re probably too young to appreciate this now, but your parents are clearly proud of you and trying to take an interest in your hobby.
I know you might find it irritating now, but you’re 14, and I promise you when you get older you’ll look back fondly on the fact that they care as much as they do