As the title reads my boyfriend is insecure. We’ve been together for 1 year and 4 months. These problems started 7 months ago. He has called me names during arguments, gets petty and insecure when I go out with friends, and makes problems out of nothing (one time he got mad at me because I didn’t say goodnight another time he got mad because there was a video of me dancing at a concert and a man was standing 10ft away from me… just for example). Every time I try to talk to him about it, he gives these long speeches about how he’s realized his mistakes, loves me, and is “ready to change,” but the same stuff keeps happening. He’ll admit to his faults and says he’s making a plan to “break those patterns,” but I’ve heard this so many times before and nothing ever sticks.
The problem is that everything else is amazing with him. He’s kind, selfless, my friends and family like him, and he’s attentive. He cares a lot about this relationship. But I don’t believe his empty promises to change anymore.
I’ve given him so many chances and each time, my trust and feelings just fade more. I still feel guilty walking away because I know he’s going through a lot. How do I stop getting pulled back in by his words? How do I stay firm in my decision when he keeps reaching out with these emotional messages? And how do I deal with the guilt of leaving when he’s “trying to change” but never actually shows it? Am I doing the right thing?
TL;DR: Insecure, petty boyfriend keeps promising change but never does. I feel guilty leaving. How do I stay firm? Am I making the right decision?
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Do you want empty promises of change for the rest of your life? No? Then it’s time to move on. Don’t put with this behavior. It only hinders you from living the one life you have.