Women can begin a whole conversation just with a compliment, and it’s like it’s just hit off from there.
I’m pretty sure men don’t compliment each other, especially strangers, and they seem to, on average, be more wary of one another.
So how do men begin convos? Do you just call out another guy and say
“Hey where you from?”
And then just go from there? Do you compliment one another and go from there? Is there a secret?
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Honestly, I observe something or he does and then one of us makes a comment about it and a short chat begins, LOL.
With a compliment.
Pretty much. I’m a pretty social guy so depending on the context/place I just chat up about something either happening in front of us or in general. Maybe a band that’s performing or the food at the bar, can be whatever’s on tv or a current event like sports. It’s got a solid success rate but it’s gonna vary based on the other guy
Tattoos are easy conversation starters, if I’m at a pool table or bar with other dudes it’s easy to strike up a convo about what brought them here or why they chose what beer.
Simple stuff honestly, the vast majority of us are just goofy fellas looking to distract ourselves or are stuck thinking in our own heads so all it takes is some compassion and willingness to start a convo
I had an uncle that would always walk up to strangers and just start a whole conversation. It was a thing of magic to watch. Me being an introvert, I could never do it. He would bring up anything. It doesn’t take certain starters, it just takes the one person to initiate.
“Hey man, you got a light?”
Context clues from their appearance and where you are to make generalize statements to stir a conversation.
“Nice watch, what is that, Swiss?”
Best deployed at the trough.
I like your shirt! How’s game group going? I sure wish we had the SuperSonics back.
I have no problem starting conversations with anyone. Most of the time I don’t want to talk to anyone, so I don’t.
Complaining about wait times
The chin nod is generally the whole conversation
It’s probably less common than with women, but I’ve had conversations with strangers start with a compliment.
If not that, there’s usually some assumption made about shared culture and interests and it flows (or doesnt) from there.
Man, this weather is awesome/sucks
I don’t
Shared interests. Come watch men at the places where we bond with each other. Car shows, football games, hikes, golf courses, etc.
Roast a generically safe topic. Dudes wearing a basketball shirt? Make fun of the the MVP or talk about Luka or LeBron. Same for any sporting apparell you recognise. Soft roast that shit.
Don’t like sports or have any hobbies? Just talk about the person you’re trying to get to know and listen to them. Ask follow-up questions.
If you’re at a bar watching the game, you can say anything about that sport.
But yes you can compliment there attire or accessories. Especially if it’s a brand you know. Someone complimented my Majin Buu beanie at a bar once and 5 minutes later we were exchanging anime lists very much to the annoyance of his date 😅
Yo! Stripes!
It sounds stereotypical, but I met some of my best friends by just striking up a conversation about sports.
“She made me come to this #insertevent#”
Men kinda…adopt each other.
“Hey, nice car.”
“Thanks. Yours is cool, too.”
awkward silence
“I’m going running down to the parts store this weekend. Wanna grab a few beers and help me work on it?”
“Yup.”
Friendship established for life.
Not that different really. Make a joke, ask a question and absolutely compliments are part of it. It just tends to be compliments on something he has or did rather than how he looks.
It’s super easy. Size him up, find common ground, or if all else fails tell him about the first time you were arrested!
One time my friends were taking forever to get to the bar, so I yelled out “hey fuck face McGee” while holding a pitcher of beer first guy looked over got asked if he needed a top up.
I don’t want to have conversations with strangers, and I don’t want them to talk to me
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Most of my compliments come from men who are strangers.
Questions.
Always ask people questions. Most people like to talk about themselves or their interests when asked.
Usually with whatever benign thought is passing through my mind in the moment, I’ll just throw that out there and gauge the response.
A joke can work. Just make sure not to talk about the Titanic, it makes for a terrible ice breaker
Haha you’re bald, whoa me too.
“Porn?”
“Yep!”
“Gay porn?”
“No”
Jokes aside, a shared interest has been the basis of several friendships of mine
We could use some rain / we needed this rain
How about those (insert sports team)
We could use some rain / we needed this rain
How about those (insert sports team)