I don’t know but I don’t like extreme pain or anything but during sex I love having my nipples pinched hard until I scream LOL it just gives me a weird rush, I guess.
Also, I love getting spanked. I remember my dad spanking me & liking it. Maybe it started there?
Only like getting back scratched up till lil blood but in my opinion, the pain pulls you from the pleasure, it’s not pleasure but the contrast kinda makes the pleasure more complex almost.
It’s like sitting in the sun tanning and feeling nice and warm by the beach with your feet in the cold water
I think for me I’ve drawn a lot of kinks from a shitty childhood, and I’ve just started associating pain with sexual pleasure. I know it’s not normal, but it’s reached the point where nothing but pleasure just feels… odd, I guess? I’m in therapy, and working very hard to stop being so much of a masochist.
Pain also releases endorphins- for some reason the sex endorphins and pain endorphins work nicely together. Sometimes psychological predilections or traumas play into it.
For me, I get off more on the idea of the pain than the actual pain itself. 🤷♀️
I have a history of self harm (ages 11-21) and pain during sex now gives me the same rush that self harm did but now it’s in a safer, more stable, and not life threatening environment.
The way your brain processes pain is incredibly complicated. Pain simulates the areas of the brain that deal with physical sensation obviously, but also areas that deal with the emotional response to pain. And the emotional response to pain can be modulated/mediated and contextualised to a large extent by yourself.
And for me at least, there is a lot of emotion involved in sex and intimacy. Also, the "physical sensation of pain" and "the unpleasantness of pain" are two totally separate things.
I like a lot of things that are considered painful but to me I don’t perceive it as pain at all.
Scientifically speaking, because both pain and pleasure activate the reward/motivation part of the brain, stimulating the neurotransmitters in very similar ways. It’s similar to why people enjoy spicy food. Why would anyone, on the most primal, animalistic sense, eat a food that causes them pain? Cause it “hurts so good”. Same thing with sex.
Psychologically, many enjoy domination/submission in sex, because it acts as an outlet for the lack of, or excess amount, of power and control they feel they have in their lives. Many who enjoy being the “sub” or being dominated by their partner, are in positions of authority, power, or are extremely independent, confident, and self sufficient in their lives. Being the “sub” during sex allows them to relinquish all control and releases them from having to make any decisions, or be the boss, which can be exhausting. The reverse is true with “Dom’s”. Many people who enjoy dominating or controlling their partner during sex feel that they lack the type of and level of control and authority they crave, often due to their own personality. Many Doms are soft spoken, gentle, warm, and nurturing outside of the bedroom, but also may feel overlooked, disregarded, or underestimated. True dom/sub scenes or relationships are enthusiastically consented to by both parties and clear boundaries and lines of communication are well established and frequently reinforced. And are quite fun, as my own personal experience can attest to
It’s hot. I developed this kink before I knew this was a thing. I gave my stuffed animals genital piercings. I’m planning on getting a Christina piercing. It’s a sensation, an intense, sexy one.
Going through significant trauma when young can affect how much you feel pain, so what is to a healthy mind painful and bad, can be to an unhealthy one, fun. Especially when combined w sex
When your body experiences pain, it releases endorphins, which cause pleasure. It’s just like how some people can become addicted to self-harming. Cutting gave me a lot of euphoria, just like getting slapped during sex gives me (similar but different) euphoria.
(Note: I stopped self-harming over a decade ago, still participate in kinky sex so long as everyone involved is on board)
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Cuz they’re not mentally okay
I don’t think we can rationalize some kinks, it just is what it is
Sex is way more complicated than the man’s thing goes in the woman’s thing and equals baby
I don’t know but I don’t like extreme pain or anything but during sex I love having my nipples pinched hard until I scream LOL it just gives me a weird rush, I guess.
Also, I love getting spanked. I remember my dad spanking me & liking it. Maybe it started there?
Only like getting back scratched up till lil blood but in my opinion, the pain pulls you from the pleasure, it’s not pleasure but the contrast kinda makes the pleasure more complex almost.
It’s like sitting in the sun tanning and feeling nice and warm by the beach with your feet in the cold water
The contrast of the pain boosts the pleasure in a way
I think for me I’ve drawn a lot of kinks from a shitty childhood, and I’ve just started associating pain with sexual pleasure. I know it’s not normal, but it’s reached the point where nothing but pleasure just feels… odd, I guess? I’m in therapy, and working very hard to stop being so much of a masochist.
Pain also releases endorphins- for some reason the sex endorphins and pain endorphins work nicely together. Sometimes psychological predilections or traumas play into it.
For me, I get off more on the idea of the pain than the actual pain itself. 🤷♀️
I have a history of self harm (ages 11-21) and pain during sex now gives me the same rush that self harm did but now it’s in a safer, more stable, and not life threatening environment.
For me it’s the fact someone is dominating me that turns me on so much, it makes the sex part feel so good
The way your brain processes pain is incredibly complicated. Pain simulates the areas of the brain that deal with physical sensation obviously, but also areas that deal with the emotional response to pain. And the emotional response to pain can be modulated/mediated and contextualised to a large extent by yourself.
And for me at least, there is a lot of emotion involved in sex and intimacy. Also, the "physical sensation of pain" and "the unpleasantness of pain" are two totally separate things.
I like a lot of things that are considered painful but to me I don’t perceive it as pain at all.
This is the only answer:
Pain and pleasure originate from the exact same place in the brain.
Probably starts with hitting, choking, slapping, and goes from there.
I’m guessing probably past trauma. A lot of past trauma for the extreme stuff. And drugs.
Brothers feeling pleasure when he should be feeling pain….
Scientifically speaking, because both pain and pleasure activate the reward/motivation part of the brain, stimulating the neurotransmitters in very similar ways. It’s similar to why people enjoy spicy food. Why would anyone, on the most primal, animalistic sense, eat a food that causes them pain? Cause it “hurts so good”. Same thing with sex.
Psychologically, many enjoy domination/submission in sex, because it acts as an outlet for the lack of, or excess amount, of power and control they feel they have in their lives. Many who enjoy being the “sub” or being dominated by their partner, are in positions of authority, power, or are extremely independent, confident, and self sufficient in their lives. Being the “sub” during sex allows them to relinquish all control and releases them from having to make any decisions, or be the boss, which can be exhausting. The reverse is true with “Dom’s”. Many people who enjoy dominating or controlling their partner during sex feel that they lack the type of and level of control and authority they crave, often due to their own personality. Many Doms are soft spoken, gentle, warm, and nurturing outside of the bedroom, but also may feel overlooked, disregarded, or underestimated. True dom/sub scenes or relationships are enthusiastically consented to by both parties and clear boundaries and lines of communication are well established and frequently reinforced. And are quite fun, as my own personal experience can attest to
For me, it’s a bit similar to the feeling when your back needs scratching.
It’s hot. I developed this kink before I knew this was a thing. I gave my stuffed animals genital piercings. I’m planning on getting a Christina piercing. It’s a sensation, an intense, sexy one.
Going through significant trauma when young can affect how much you feel pain, so what is to a healthy mind painful and bad, can be to an unhealthy one, fun. Especially when combined w sex
When the body detects pain, it releases endorphins to combat the pain. This results in a kind of mild euphoria
When your body experiences pain, it releases endorphins, which cause pleasure. It’s just like how some people can become addicted to self-harming. Cutting gave me a lot of euphoria, just like getting slapped during sex gives me (similar but different) euphoria.
(Note: I stopped self-harming over a decade ago, still participate in kinky sex so long as everyone involved is on board)
With more pain
Yeah, i basically need it to reach sexual gratificatiin
‘Hurts so good’ comes to mind.
The neurological process for associating an injury with pain and sexual behavior with pleasure follows the same structure
Consent.