I (24F) have been thinking about this a lot lately. Some women seem to effortlessly draw men to them and it’s not because they’re trying too hard or doing anything particularly “extra.” They’re just existing… and somehow every guy they talk to ends up crushing on them.
There’s this girl at my gym but she’s dating someone. Yet, whenever she talks to a guy, it’s like bam, instant attention. I asked her what she does, and she swears she’s not doing anything intentional. But she did mention that I come across as “unapproachable” even though she thinks I’m really pretty. Apparently, I avoid eye contact and unintentionally give off a ‘too cool’ vibe.
Thing is, I’m not trying to look arrogant or intimidating, I’m just being normal! I’m not desperate for attention from men, but I do want the right guy to feel pulled toward me. Like… obsess over me a little, you know?
So I’m curious: What is it that these magnetic women do differently? Is it eye contact? Energy? Presence? Some kind of subconscious body language? Confidence? And more importantly… how do I tap into that kind of energy without changing who I am?
Would love to hear thoughts and stories and tips.
TL;DR:
Some women effortlessly attract men without even trying — like my gym friend who has guys crushing on her despite being taken. She says I come off as unapproachable even though I’m pretty. I’m not seeking random attention, but I do want the right guy to go crazy over me. What makes certain women so irresistibly magnetic, and how can I tap into that energy without faking it?
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Honestly, there’s no secret hack like the right amount of eye contact. Other than maybe smiling a lot. Being confident, relaxed and positive naturally draws people in. A positive and uplifting energy which makes people feel good and special, appreciated and seen. If you go into an interaction curious about the other person and enthusiastic about what they’re telling you / having helpful insight, that helps a ton.
no secret, just be nice. its not a woman thing. some people are more agreable and make you comfortable from the beginning.
People are diffrent.
But, Eye contact and smile. Thats mostly it. You fail at those, you Will have a lot less attention.
Men like to se that they are not disturbing or intimidate you. If you want men in your space, show it. But it is a Balance because you might not want all the mens attention and men can be assholes. But still, show the guy you want to
If you want to be the GOAT at it, be proactive and approach the Guy first.
Two things: one, that cannot be discounted, is looks. Men go crazy for hot women, which by definition not all women can be. And you also need to drop the handkerchief per se. This is usually a couple seconds of eye contact, a smile etc
You should approach the men you’re interested in rather than waiting for them to come to you.
There’s nothing anyone is doing to be special. Men approach women they find easy. They approach women who seem intimidating for a “challenge.” They approach women they find attractive even while knowing they’re most likely going to be rejected. Spend less time trying to find life hacks. Finding attraction, love and another person is a game of luck. There’s absolutely nothing you can do unless you’re like a witch and can do spells or something idk. But you waste your own time trying to figure it out. Maybe instead of trying to attract the entire world, find ways to attract yourself or someone you want
Being outgoing and engaging does it. If you are keeping to yourself to avoid attention from men you aren’t interested, you’re missing it from the guys you might like.
You can get attention or repel attention, but you can’t really only attract the attention from certain people.
Most people struggle to approach or start a conversation. Breaking that ice will lead to tons of attention: smile, say hi, ask a question, give a compliment. But you will get unwanted attention along with the wanted attention.