How do you manage your anger or recognize when the anger is not the answer?
How do you create a peaceful home?
How do you balance the emotions with practicality?
How do you balance anger while creating a peaceful home?
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How do you manage your anger or recognize when the anger is not the answer?
How do you create a peaceful home?
How do you balance the emotions with practicality?
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I have been praying to God for help with my emotions. For me, it really seems to help. Journaling also helps tremendously. It might help you to write down why you are angry and what you need for a peaceful home. Journaling helps me clarify and control my thoughts.
Always talk with your partner when things are calm and good. If they say they don’t see the need, don’t push it, A seed has already been planted.
Be first to compliment or thank your partner for what they do. A little sugar goes a very long way…
Hugs. I sense you are a good person going through a tough time.
Ashwagandha and Saffron in the morning, Magnesium at night. If I don’t sleep well for days, my anger gets out of control and my mental health in general.
Walks, dance classes, gardening, and self-care (just a good body scrub, maybe an oil mask for my hair, a quick face massage before going to bed, a thorough teeth routine at night), all these helped a lot. I’m just trying to remember that I am human and not lose myself completely in motherhood.
Therapy and it’s still a work in progress. I definitely need my space and try to distract myself when I take my space, either by just being on my phone or listening to (angry) music. It’s not easy or perfect by any means but it’s something I’m so aware of and work to get better at
I get angry. I apologize later if I was out of line. But I’m not going to stifle my anger if my partner did something uncaring. He gets to know I’m pissed and why.
I’m also human – I fail at perfect parenting often enough to apologize to my kids when I fall short. I’m not aiming to get mad. But carelessness leading to a shit-ton of cleaning earns an angry rant and a lecture for sure. I will always apologize. But I don’t pretend I’m not angry.
Part of raising healthy kids is letting them see your fights don’t diminish your love for your partner, and that making mistakes is human but love outlasts anger.
Let yourself be angry, but find good ways to express it.
Maybe you have an angry journal, or maybe you tell your spouse/kids you need quiet time for a bit. Maybe you decide you’re just in a bad mood and it’s not worth hashing out. Maybe you’re angry but can’t put your finger on why. Maybe you’re angry but don’t know what the solution is yet.
Go be angry and process it. Then when you get to a point where you either want to talk about it or propose a change to avoid creating that anger in the future, ask your spouse to talk.
I usually take a minute to cool off. Deep breaths, walk to another room, whatever works. I’ve learned that snapping just makes everything worse. I try to handle stuff with a clear head, even if I’m still mad. Peace at home matters more than being right.
Therapy
Meditate everyday. Ups and downs are part of living but sailing through them is Art of Living.
Pot. Weed pot, planting pots, cooking pots… pot helps!
i write everything down. every bad thought, negative feeling, awful situation, then release it. going outside on a walk helps too! i just trying not to stay stuck, my children don’t deserve that.