My mom was my rock ever since I was born. She died last year and I had to “help” since mitastic cancer put her in the ICU. She was the only person I could rely on with all my health issues. She humanized me when I felt like I didn’t deserve it.
Now, a year later, I have opportunities to mingle with neighbors, do significant good in my community and become the best person I never thought I would be. But I can’t connect with people. I dare to say I’m completely disinterested until I have to be. Even than, I struggle to give a shit. I know I should be able to socialize with people and have others in my life.
How do you carry on, socially, after the most important person in your life dies?
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Please see a professional therapist; this is above Reddit’s pay grade. I mean that with all kindness, but losing a parent shouldn’t destroy your life and there are people trained to help with this sort of thing.
So sorry for your loss.
It sounds like you’re in an awesome spot right now.
It’s a perfect time to talk to a solid therapist who can give you a streamlined way to move forward so you can embrace the goodness that’s right in front of you.
Go for it!
Sympathies from someone who was in a similar spot, but the people saying ‘find a reliable pro’ aren’t wrong. You should.
One day at a time. But an early-ish day needs to be with a therapist or at the very least some sort of medical professional.