it feels one-sided and I don’t want to be petty but I’m tired of always being the fallback friend I’m the one who checks in makes plans listens but when I go quiet nobody notices should I bring it up or just quietly let the friendship fade out
how do you deal with friends who only hit you up when they need something
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You’re not weird or alone lots of people feel this way after a missed connection. It’s okay to be sad, but use it as motivation: next time, take the chance and say something. Let this be a lesson, not a regret. The moment’s gone, but the next one doesn’t have to be.
You’re glue. I’m glue. And we are necessary. By nature, most people are self-concerned, but I never felt enough., and I was a middle child, so I’ve been people-pleasing, listening actively to my friends ‘ for years without getting a word in. It’s lonely and exhausting, and it IS unfair, but it’s who we are. You’d feel horrible if you called them out or dissolved the friendship. If you are too bothered by the one-sided relationships, I’m sorry. It’s too late. We create monsters in people. I used to drive my friend everywhere, but I stopped, and he was like wtf, man!? People begin to expect our selflessness. My best advice. Keep things as is with your current friends. Friends, good ones, are rare and should be treasured, no matter how fucked they are. But starting now, when you begin a new relationship, set firm boundaries, expectations, call it out right away so there’s no shock and awe. I totally get you. I wish I had better advice. Health and happiness to you and your friends!! And good luck, friend!