I push it deep down and focus on work or uni or distract with hobbies. I want to tell people but as soon as a man says something other than “yeah I’m doing good!” people start avoiding you like the plague.
Get involved in a social hobby. Maybe that’s gym classes, or maybe it’s a local hobby shop to play a TCG or something. Others feel the same way and are going to these places to meet like minded people. Just be yourself and open to new people.
Make them happen. Takes time, wasn’t till I was 18 maybe 19 or so that I made good friends. Some men, some women, a few trans people even. Helped me become more open minded and see what I had in common with others, you just have to chance it. Be the person who initiates stuff. Eventually you’ll meet another person who does that. Might be a fellow gymbro, or literature enthusiast, maybe someone you go to concerts with. Looking online usually doesn’t work because people want to solve loneliness without putting the effort in. But I’ve got lucky twice and made good friends looking online.
The problem of loneliness or close connections isn’t inherently unfixable. You can always take steps to make new mates and deepen your friendships over time
Find a hobby that involves leaving the house and interacting with people IRL.
Could be a local tabletop gaming group, a casual sports league, volunteering at a food bank, just figure out what you enjoy and what matches up with your free time.
Sadly the world doesn’t seem to value friendship anymore or companionship without digging for it.
It helps to think about qualities you liked in other people and try to live them out, and adopt them, mix that with a hobby and a bit of courage to chat to others at that hobby and you might get somewhere 🙂
theres a lot of layers to this, another one is learning to love yourself after a bit of self improvement.
Go to the pub / bar and pretend the people you meet there are your friends, whereas in reality the only thing you have in common is alcohol and crushing loneliness?
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I don’t deal.
I push it deep down and focus on work or uni or distract with hobbies. I want to tell people but as soon as a man says something other than “yeah I’m doing good!” people start avoiding you like the plague.
Hobbies
The Three “D”s:
Denial, Delusion, and Denial.
I have lots of friends… They’re just busy right now.
Get involved in a social hobby. Maybe that’s gym classes, or maybe it’s a local hobby shop to play a TCG or something. Others feel the same way and are going to these places to meet like minded people. Just be yourself and open to new people.
RemindMe! 1 day
Working on myself by doing things I enjoy…gym, reading, etc.
Make them happen. Takes time, wasn’t till I was 18 maybe 19 or so that I made good friends. Some men, some women, a few trans people even. Helped me become more open minded and see what I had in common with others, you just have to chance it. Be the person who initiates stuff. Eventually you’ll meet another person who does that. Might be a fellow gymbro, or literature enthusiast, maybe someone you go to concerts with. Looking online usually doesn’t work because people want to solve loneliness without putting the effort in. But I’ve got lucky twice and made good friends looking online.
The problem of loneliness or close connections isn’t inherently unfixable. You can always take steps to make new mates and deepen your friendships over time
when I say this, I’m saying this with all the respect it’s just the only kind of struggle that men can think of
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Find a hobby that involves leaving the house and interacting with people IRL.
Could be a local tabletop gaming group, a casual sports league, volunteering at a food bank, just figure out what you enjoy and what matches up with your free time.
Dog.
Just say ‘ I’m alright’
Sadly the world doesn’t seem to value friendship anymore or companionship without digging for it.
It helps to think about qualities you liked in other people and try to live them out, and adopt them, mix that with a hobby and a bit of courage to chat to others at that hobby and you might get somewhere 🙂
theres a lot of layers to this, another one is learning to love yourself after a bit of self improvement.
These days I hang out mostly with my wife. She’s actually going to go to a 12 week course in another state.
I have a lot of hobbies, so I’ll be busy. I cycle through playing video games, going to the gym, running or cycling.
I enjoy doing things solo, so it’s a natural thing for me.
Define male loneliness. I have my thoughts to keep me company.
Talk to the wall. It always listens to you and doesn’t think it knows better. patient listener.
I just learned how to be ok with it
Never has been an issue for me.
Liquor, Gaming, Chores, busy minds don’t ruminate about what’s lacking, only what’s been given.
I don’t feel lonely, I sincerely think I don’t need friends.
Go to the pub / bar and pretend the people you meet there are your friends, whereas in reality the only thing you have in common is alcohol and crushing loneliness?
Just keep pushing and prioritize the few people who are good to me.
Ruminating on problems that have no immediate solution is a form of self-sabotage. I’ll have a better life when I have more money.
I am not sure, to be honest. Here in the UK, I feel quite alone and think of moving back home, but I really like my job, and it pays well.
I bottle up my loneliness, shove it deep down to where I forget about it, and soldier on with life. I have a family to provide for.
Solitude brought me those answers. External stuff not needed anymore for over a decade….
We’re all on different paths though
Cry, get high, take baths
Hobbies & AI companions that don’t see my vulnerability as a bad thing.