I remind myself that even the people I love most have attributes I don’t like, and that it would be impossible for me to please every single person, all of the time.
I also try to remember that unless it is a person I know and care about, what other people think about me isn’t my business just like what I think of them isn’t theirs.
If it is someone I care about then I’ll give their comment some thought. From there I choose to either work on whatever they’ve pointed out or loop around back to the first point.
If you know me well, then I take it as constructive criticism.
If they don’t know me well, it can go two ways. I immediately acknowledge their lack of knowing me so what they say isn’t even based on true facts and am not phased by it and realize it’s projection or envy. Or, I try to see where they’re coming from and see how their view is getting skewed, because they don’t know me only the superficial part of me.
I have started to try to live by the rule of “if you wouldn’t take advice from the person then why would you take criticism” or “don’t take criticism from anyone you wouldn’t take advice from” and it’s helped me tremendously. Most people who say hurtful things are just JELLYYYYY or unhappy with their personal situation, why should I let their unhappiness make me unhappy. I’m thriving and they’re miserable so why would I take their criticism if clearly they could use some of my advice rather than the opposite. At the end of the day, fuckem
I don’t take criticism from someone I wouldn’t take advice from. If it’s coming from a constructive place from someone that knows their shit, I take it to heart and try to work on it. Otherwise, I have long since stopping giving a fuck what unimportant people think of me.
I don’t get a lot of them but one time I got called a slur on Red Dead Online and I retaliated by watching a bunch of videos about how to Get Gud and then went on a collector run to farm XP and then I was soothed by the collector run because it’s literally just riding from place to place finding shiny things. So now I guess I’ll just do a collector route in RDO whenever I get a negative comment lmao
Understand that all they know about me is how they percieve me, and not who i really am. The only person that can judge me wholly based on my character, is me. Would love to be strong enough to talk to them about how the comments make me feel, usually stay content with the above sentiment, and get comfortable with not needing to be friendly with that person.
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Mostly, I internalize them and then ruminate a lot on them. Sometimes, they cease bothering me after a certain point.
They don’t bother me. I am the most self assured person I know.
I remind myself that even the people I love most have attributes I don’t like, and that it would be impossible for me to please every single person, all of the time.
I also try to remember that unless it is a person I know and care about, what other people think about me isn’t my business just like what I think of them isn’t theirs.
If it is someone I care about then I’ll give their comment some thought. From there I choose to either work on whatever they’ve pointed out or loop around back to the first point.
Matter who says them.
If you know me well, then I take it as constructive criticism.
If they don’t know me well, it can go two ways. I immediately acknowledge their lack of knowing me so what they say isn’t even based on true facts and am not phased by it and realize it’s projection or envy. Or, I try to see where they’re coming from and see how their view is getting skewed, because they don’t know me only the superficial part of me.
Simply. Dont interact back. Don’t feed the vampire.
Block block block
I don’t care about them
I try to brush it off and focus on the good stuff
I have started to try to live by the rule of “if you wouldn’t take advice from the person then why would you take criticism” or “don’t take criticism from anyone you wouldn’t take advice from” and it’s helped me tremendously. Most people who say hurtful things are just JELLYYYYY or unhappy with their personal situation, why should I let their unhappiness make me unhappy. I’m thriving and they’re miserable so why would I take their criticism if clearly they could use some of my advice rather than the opposite. At the end of the day, fuckem
I don’t take criticism from someone I wouldn’t take advice from. If it’s coming from a constructive place from someone that knows their shit, I take it to heart and try to work on it. Otherwise, I have long since stopping giving a fuck what unimportant people think of me.
Dunno. My boyfriend of ten years commented on my acne at the weekend and I’ve cried countless times since
“No one asked you”
I don’t get a lot of them but one time I got called a slur on Red Dead Online and I retaliated by watching a bunch of videos about how to Get Gud and then went on a collector run to farm XP and then I was soothed by the collector run because it’s literally just riding from place to place finding shiny things. So now I guess I’ll just do a collector route in RDO whenever I get a negative comment lmao
IDC everyone is entitled to their opinion
I’m not aware of any.
And if anyone dare make any to my awareness, well… bring it lol. Happy to prove them wrong whilst making them feel small and pathetic 😊
Understand that all they know about me is how they percieve me, and not who i really am. The only person that can judge me wholly based on my character, is me. Would love to be strong enough to talk to them about how the comments make me feel, usually stay content with the above sentiment, and get comfortable with not needing to be friendly with that person.
Delusion and denial, baby! They’re clearly in love with me and just handling it badly, honestly embarrassed for them