I’ve been struggling lately with this feeling that no matter what I do, it’s never enough. It feels like I’m always trying to meet the expectations of my family, my friends, and even myself, but I still come up short. I try so hard to be good enough, to make everyone proud, but in the end, I always feel like I’m failing. It’s like I’m stuck in this endless cycle of self-doubt and disappointment.
Has anyone else felt like this? How do you deal with the constant pressure of not feeling enough? How do you stop feeling like you’re just not measuring up no matter what you do?
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This is the conundrum of people pleasers. It’s a useless venture. Been there done that. I still fall off the wagon now and then. But I’ve gotten a bit better. Not sure how I evolved that way. I suppose there are worse afflictions is my only consolation.
In my experience the solution to this is to avoid people who make you feel this way.
Your value comes from within not from without.
You get to decide that you’re enough, there’s no external metric you have to meet to be considered enough by anything outside of yourself.
You are already enough just as you are.
If you can really internalize that sentence and incorporate it into your thought process you may just find you’re worth more than you give yourself credit for.