This kind of story is all too familiar, the guy shows interest in the girl or pursues her too strongly early on which repels her. But when he pulls back and doesn’t show his feelings to seem mysterious and indifferent, the girl begins seeking his attention and becomes interested. As a side note, I’ve mostly noticed this behavior with women in their 20s and rarely with anyone older than their 30s. Could it be that they’re shy or are they stringing the guy along to mess with him for attention? Is it even worth playing these power struggle games of who could care less or would you move on to avoid wasting your time
How do you deal with women who give off mixed feelings and interest?
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For me it’s simple im here for a relationship not to play games. So i move on her loss.
Find someone who is consistent
Don’t.
If it isn’t an enthusiastic yes, it’s a no and you move on.
It’s called moving on
Happens with both sexes. It’s usually an avoidant attachment style thing. I’d Google that.
Move on. She’s using you for attention. When you give it she sits back comfortable to receive and never reciprocate. When you get fed up and move on, she doesn’t want to lose her source of emotional attention and tries to hook you back in. As soon as you are back in the cycle starts anew.
Oh that’s easy
I don’t
Mixed signals is the first sign games are being played here and that’s my cue to leave
I’m dealing with a woman like this now. Not sure what to do other than hang on and enjoy the ride. This one goes from loving her job to hating her job, from suggesting things that she wants to do to forgetting she suggested it. I think her three friends are influencing her. I get the sense that they are looking for something.
Honestly if I am into someone I ask them out, if they say no I move on. This projection where you’re criticizing women because you don’t want to take that risk seems super misogynistic to me.
I don’t
I focused on myself. I discovered that I didn’t need anyone’s validation. Studied and worked hard. Finished college, graduate school, medical school, internship, residency, and fellowship. Joined the military, deployed, earned several rows of been there done that ribbons. Raised two sons by myself who are both very successful professionals. Live on the beach now getting ready to retire in a few years. Her? I heard she became a professional. A professional gold digger, divorced once again. Friends that know her tell me I dodged a bullet. My advice to young men? Don’t get attached. If you have to get attached, only get attached to yourself.
You don’t, save your sanity and don’t put up with games. If you gotta ask if she likes you, then she doesn’t. If she truly wanted you then she would make it clear, the one that she wants will never have to jump through any hoops.
Learned the hard way that doing everything right means Jack shit if you’re not the one she wants, confidence be damned.
People start way too often with “what to do about that?” and then later discover that they should have started with their own feelings about this, because most of them do not want to deal with such inconsistency – at which point the answer is already to involve yourself less with that person.
Run. They’re going to break you
Hell no! Why would anyone put themselves thru something so trivial. I’ll cut the entire conversation by the third one word response. When an magic 8 ball has more of a response than a person, it’s time to cut your losses. Also dudes really need to stop the whole “hey beautiful, morning beautiful, hey this, hey that” first off it’s cringy af and you sure af ain’t the first person that day to tell her that bullshit. They want nothing but attention with a long as line full of dudes waiting to be picked. Women are a dime a dozen, they ain’t worth the headache.
ask for clarification
I avoid her altogether. It’s either she’s interested or not. If she likes to play games, unfortunately, I’m not up to it. I’m too old to be overthinking and people-pleasing.
She trying to save you for a later date if her other prospects dont work out. Hit that dusty highway bud