How do you deal with your parents discussing your personal issues with others?
How do you deal with your parents discussing your personal issues with others?
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How do you deal with your parents discussing your personal issues with others?
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If I found out my parents were doing that, I’d be a little less open with them.
Advise them I did not consent to them sharing my private information. Become more hesitant to share personal information with my parents in the future.
If its a situation where they are sharing information about me I have not told them about, strongly emphasis the first point – please share do not information that is personal to me with anyone else without asking me first.
Depends on what the “personal issues” and who the “others” were.
But I guess I’d talk to my mom about boundaries and let her know that my private life is private, and that if she keeps taking about it to others I’d stop telling her stuff.
I’ve avoided discussing personal issues with my parents for years. Most of my life actually, save for a brief period in my late 20s/early 30s where I tried to be more open with my mum. It just leads to problems for everyone. We don’t have that type of relationship, so it’s easier to avoid it as much as possible. Which means there’s less for them to tell anyone else since they don’t know too much themselves. I mean, they’re not totally in the dark, they have an idea of the things I struggle with that have been issues for a long time, but since moving out of their home in my early 20s (I’m 40), I only share what’s necessary for practical reasons.
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I told my parents in no uncertain terms to stop or they wouldn’t have a relationship with me anymore. They didn’t so I cut them off. Then they contacted me and apologized. They no longer do that but then again I don’t tell them anything about me. Their lack of respect and boundaries ruined our relationship.
You cut them off.
I don’t. I don’t really talk to my family , and when I do I tell them very little about me bc of my stepmom’s tendency to tell everyone who will listen my and my siblings business ( this goes back to childhood)
They barely even know where I work or who I’m dating or anything. I love it.
I stopped telling them anything.
I just stopped telling my mom anything I didn’t want shared. I know she’s going to blab so why put myself in that position 🤷🏻♀️