Long story short, I’m intermittent texty friends with a male I work with occasionally on community projects & local political activism (unpaid, voluntary). It’s always just ordinary chit chat, or work related.
He has gorgeous long curly hair, like thick long Viking hair. Tonight we were texting and he admitted he never styles his hair or uses product, just shampoos & air dries and his hair just looks like that. I gushed over how lucky he is, and joked that if I had his hair id style it (think, curly hair method) with some high-end product & make it really shine.
He goes “Oh yeah, you wanna do my hair? What else would you do to me?” And then…the dreaded eggplant emoji. đź’€ He’s thirty fucking seven. And has a newborn sleeping in the next room (I wish I was making this up). And for context, this is a very red-pilled manosphere type who’s lowkey seeking a “tradwife.” So like how is he being all horny over a few texts about haircare, while seeking a submissive virgin. đź‘€
I left him on Read & it’ll probably stay that way, but if I even consider replying, I do have a few zingers locked & loaded…but I’m curious, what, if anything, would you say in this situation? (besides the obvious ignore or block & delete)
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Oh noooooo. I would give him a “🤨”. I’m convinced that’s what that emoji was invented for.
Yikes, this gives me the ick. Maybe if you have to see him again say something like “Not what I was going for at all, Mike.” But honestly I would probably just ignore and ghost him, I can’t deal with this kind of lack of reading social cues.
Unless you are very good friends, don’t talk about their looks. They always assume interest instead of being complimentary as women tend ti be with each other.
Red pill manosphere type is not someone I would really be chit chat texting with anyways, but I’d just leave him on read and only respond to things that relate to your mutual work.
Is he married, taken, single? If hes not single, why are you texting a 37 year old man like this?
Block. There’s nothing to say. I know you said what I’d say but legit just block and report to someone or at least tell other women he’s a weirdo.
You know how in the Sims if you say the really wrong thing to another Sim and they get the double negative red sign above their head? I’d text an image of that then block. What an absolutely weird way to reply to a hair compliment, but you already admitted he was redpilled so that’s how his brain is wired.
I don’t deflect people being inappropriate, I tell them it’s gross and to stop.
The issue for me is the manosphere stuff. I mean, yeah, it sucks that so many men try to initiate sexting when there’s been literally zero indication that that would be wanted or appropriate, but him being an MRA is a much more pressing issue IMO and would prevent me from feeling comfortable talking to him about anything, let alone sex.
Just go “EWWWWWWWW” so it damages his ego a little