I’ve been lucky enough to stay home. The household chores are just a natural part of the flow of my day. He’ll help me play catch-up sometimes, esp. if we have someone coming to stay for the weekend or whatever, and he’ll do the heavier duty stuff. But for the most part, I’m able to get things done and not need him to help.
Prior to having a housekeeper (before we lived together and I just stayed over half the time), I generally just try to clean up after myself, and maybe I’ll run the roomba (i.e open an app press a button), or if he’s very desperate and asks for my help… then I’ll do it (try). He always did and still does more than me though.
We just team up. No strict rules. If one cooks, the other cleans. If one’s tired, the other steps in. It’s about helping each other. Not keeping score.
We usually just stick to our strengths. He might cook, and I do the clean-ups.
At the end of the day, it’s not about strict “equal” for us, but fairness and who’s got the energy.
If a new chore comes up, we just talk directly and discuss how we both can contribute. A quick “Can you handle this?” or “I’m tired, can you cover?” goes a long way when one of us feels like they’ve got more burden
We live in separate apartments and have no children. We switch it up when it comes to cooking, purchasing drinks. I spend more time at his, so I do a few chores here and there.
I work FT and go to school ft, he works ft in the heat and a more physically demanding job than I do.
I do laundry and maintain common areas. We share kitchen, trash. He vacuums, does all the outside stuff. Whoever has more free time does the deep cleaning of bathrooms. Our home stays pretty self manageable thankfully.
We each have chores we prefer and also ones we know just have to be done. And the ratio of work changes as our individual work and energy needs change. Only hard rules right now is that he does all the driving which I hate, and I do all the laundry which he hates.
I have a much longer commute and am out the house for longer so during the week he does more cooking and laundry. At the weekend we clean together and I cook.
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When I have more free time I do the bulk of the chores. When he has more free time he does. When we have equal free time, we do equal chores.
I’ve been lucky enough to stay home. The household chores are just a natural part of the flow of my day. He’ll help me play catch-up sometimes, esp. if we have someone coming to stay for the weekend or whatever, and he’ll do the heavier duty stuff. But for the most part, I’m able to get things done and not need him to help.
She does slightly more than me because I work full time and she doesn’t.
I do all the deep cleaning though because I’m awesome at that stuff, whereas she is doing more of the daily upkeep
We don’t because im breastfeeding… But I do the cooking and he does laundry. I do the morning routine, he does the night routine.
No, he does more.
Prior to having a housekeeper (before we lived together and I just stayed over half the time), I generally just try to clean up after myself, and maybe I’ll run the roomba (i.e open an app press a button), or if he’s very desperate and asks for my help… then I’ll do it (try). He always did and still does more than me though.
We just team up. No strict rules. If one cooks, the other cleans. If one’s tired, the other steps in. It’s about helping each other. Not keeping score.
We usually just stick to our strengths. He might cook, and I do the clean-ups.
At the end of the day, it’s not about strict “equal” for us, but fairness and who’s got the energy.
If a new chore comes up, we just talk directly and discuss how we both can contribute. A quick “Can you handle this?” or “I’m tired, can you cover?” goes a long way when one of us feels like they’ve got more burden
Most of the time i am the one that cooks, because i am better at this and he does the cleaning
We live in separate apartments and have no children. We switch it up when it comes to cooking, purchasing drinks. I spend more time at his, so I do a few chores here and there.
I don’t.
He’s a stay at home partner while I work full time, so the lions share of duties is on him.
I help him when I’m at home, but he’s doing most of it.
We discuss what needs to be done, who has time/energy, and split up the list.
Yes. It ebbs and flows slightly as life changes and shifts. But ultimately, yes.
I work FT and go to school ft, he works ft in the heat and a more physically demanding job than I do.
I do laundry and maintain common areas. We share kitchen, trash. He vacuums, does all the outside stuff. Whoever has more free time does the deep cleaning of bathrooms. Our home stays pretty self manageable thankfully.
We just both see what needs to be done and do it.
We each have chores we prefer and also ones we know just have to be done. And the ratio of work changes as our individual work and energy needs change. Only hard rules right now is that he does all the driving which I hate, and I do all the laundry which he hates.
Works good
He does more than me as I do all the cooking and he WFH permanently so he’s home more.
We both have chores we enjoy doing so we do those things diligently and it works for us
I have a much longer commute and am out the house for longer so during the week he does more cooking and laundry. At the weekend we clean together and I cook.
I think we both have a mindset that if one of us is with the baby the other is cleaning bottles, prepping bottles, or cooking.