Depends on why. I’m happy to help with directions or info about the neighborhood. I’ve been part of more than one person’s first day in Canada! Not happy to be approached by sales people. Sometimes ok with helping unhoused people who are hungry.
Depends on reason, to ask for directions I’m happy to do so if it’s my local area, if it’s to compliment something I’m wearing, also fine as I may remember where it’s from and go “thanks it’s from shop name” anything else I probably won’t respond or will ignore
Depends on the person. If someone approached me with the sense that they wanted to date me or get to know me in order to date me, I’d be uncomfortable and uneasy. I am not a traditionally attractive woman. People do not approach me for that. Also, even if I were the hottest creature on Earth, I’m happily married and wear a wedding ring, so I’d take a dim view of anyone who ignored that ring in favor of the way my appearance made their genitals feel.
But for most other things, especially if the person doing the approaching were a woman, I wouldn’t mind.
I automatically assume I’m about to be either sexually harassed or given a sales pitch for something (and I’m right about that 99% of the time), so of course I tense up and try to get away ASAP.
I’m fine with it. It’s how they start the conversation that usually turns it sour. I had one guy literally come up to me, rubbing his hands together. His eyes were sure if they should look at my ass or tits and the first thing out of his mouth was, “Heyyyy girl.”
Honestly? If I’m in the right mood and it’s done respectfully, it can be flattering. But if I’ve got headphones in, groceries in hand, and “leave me alone” energy radiating off me—please read the room. There’s a fine line between confidence and “sir, this is a Wendy’s.
Honestly, it’s a bit of a mixed bag. If it’s done with confidence and respect, I’m all for it—it’s flattering to know someone finds you interesting enough to make the first move. But if it’s too forward or feels forced, I might get a little uncomfortable. The vibe definitely matters! So, if you’re planning to approach, just make sure it’s with a little charm and a lot of confidence.
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Depends on why. I’m happy to help with directions or info about the neighborhood. I’ve been part of more than one person’s first day in Canada! Not happy to be approached by sales people. Sometimes ok with helping unhoused people who are hungry.
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Depends on reason, to ask for directions I’m happy to do so if it’s my local area, if it’s to compliment something I’m wearing, also fine as I may remember where it’s from and go “thanks it’s from shop name” anything else I probably won’t respond or will ignore
Depends on the person. If someone approached me with the sense that they wanted to date me or get to know me in order to date me, I’d be uncomfortable and uneasy. I am not a traditionally attractive woman. People do not approach me for that. Also, even if I were the hottest creature on Earth, I’m happily married and wear a wedding ring, so I’d take a dim view of anyone who ignored that ring in favor of the way my appearance made their genitals feel.
But for most other things, especially if the person doing the approaching were a woman, I wouldn’t mind.
I’m disabled so I don’t like it at all. I’m an easy target for a shove, snatch and dash.
By whom and why? A lady asking for directions? A beggar? That would be VERY different.
I don’t mind it really. I’m with my husband whenever I go out, so I know I’m safe.
If someone needs quick directions, I don’t mind at all.
If someone is approaching me to try to flirt with me, I hate it.
Pretty much I’ll bark at you within reason
I automatically assume I’m about to be either sexually harassed or given a sales pitch for something (and I’m right about that 99% of the time), so of course I tense up and try to get away ASAP.
Depends on the situation / behaviour of the person approaching me.
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I’m fine with it. It’s how they start the conversation that usually turns it sour. I had one guy literally come up to me, rubbing his hands together. His eyes were sure if they should look at my ass or tits and the first thing out of his mouth was, “Heyyyy girl.”
Hard pass.
If I’m treated like a person , I’m generally okay with it. If the approaching person displays symptoms of main character syndrome, I’m out
Honestly? If I’m in the right mood and it’s done respectfully, it can be flattering. But if I’ve got headphones in, groceries in hand, and “leave me alone” energy radiating off me—please read the room. There’s a fine line between confidence and “sir, this is a Wendy’s.
Doesn’t bother me as long as they’re not being rude or weird.
Depends if I’m with someone whom I want to dedicate that time towards.
Honestly, it’s a bit of a mixed bag. If it’s done with confidence and respect, I’m all for it—it’s flattering to know someone finds you interesting enough to make the first move. But if it’s too forward or feels forced, I might get a little uncomfortable. The vibe definitely matters! So, if you’re planning to approach, just make sure it’s with a little charm and a lot of confidence.