Hey,
Has anyone else experienced this or is currently experiencing this?
My MIL tells SO to tell my things that are sometimes important stuff that she should tell me directly and I don’t know if it’s a case of her being “”shy””, avoiding confrontation or any other reason ?
The latest example I have if that I was supposed to wear one of her traditional outfit at a cultural gathering (for their community) and she made changes last minute so I have to wear something completely different from what we agreed to (I don’t really mind cause they’re not mine and it’ll wear them for a couple of hours) but it’s just the fact that she only told my partner and not me, when I’m the one that’s going to be wearing them?
And it’s not the first time that she did this, I always find out stuff from my partner and don’t really get an explanation and when I see her we don’t spend enough time alone for me to confront her (which I defo want to do, not to argue but to find out if somethings wrong? If she feels like she can’t talk to me), but my inner voice tells me something wrong..
Should I be worried?
Would love to hear your thoughts x
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What is your culture? If it is different from hers then perhaps she worries about being misinterpreted. Does your husband have an issue with it or does it feel abnormal to him? I see people here often recommend letting men handle communication with their own side. I wouldnt confront her exactly but you can say something gentle like “feel free to text or call me with the details or with questions. You have my number right?”
Id also reach out with plan details of your own. Maybe ask to meet up for coffee or something. Or to shop for an event together. Start the communication on your end.