As a side note, how would you feel if they did porn in the past? [edit] or have been to massage places..
How do you feel about your partners sexual history?
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As a side note, how would you feel if they did porn in the past? [edit] or have been to massage places..
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This is one I’ve really had to think about. I don’t care too much about my partner’s sexual history from their 20s. After 20s I judge based on how many serious relationships they’ve had and for how long. I like someone who has no problem staying committed to one person. 🙂
My wife has a higher number. I don’t care.
I don’t care much about my partners sexual history but I do care about is his relationship history and why all of them failed.
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Could not give a single shit about it. As long as their clean and have gotten an STD check from their last partner before me.
I have never asked. Unless there is trauma I need to know about, I don’t want to know anything.
Honestly I do care if someone was promiscuous as I am not, it could be insecurity but it’s more so I see them as someone who didn’t respect themselves, and not having respect for yourself gives me the ick.
I enjoy hearing stories of his sexual experiences. He likes hearing mine. Ohh and we both are very sexually adventurous..still 😈
I’m happy with it, because it’s only ever been me.
I don’t want to know
I would be okay about his sexual life with his ex girlfriends but i wouldn’t date someone who had one night stands. Doing porn is also a huge red flag for me.
I know that a sexual history of sorts exists. But I know nothing beyond that.
None of my concern. I just need to know that he can and will be faithful to me.
It’s none of my business. But because we live in a small place and we were friends for 10 years before to starred dating, I know it is quite extensive. Still don’t care!
I know her sexual history, because we were friends before we got together. But I wouldn’t care either way.
I think it’s important, especially if you’ve taken care of yourself in those things in general. Feel like promiscuity also says a lot about a person.
It’s not something that’s even on my radar.
It’s interesting to me. I’m the first person my husband ever dated/was in a relationship with. He had a relatively promiscuous past but the person he is today isn’t that person anymore. I’m probably weird and like to ask him about his past because it helps me understand him and the things he’s gone through better. He has grown so much and I’m so lucky he’s the guy he is today because he’s pretty amazing
I’m fine knowing anything they feel they need to tell me. But it’s not something I’m going to do too much digging in myself because I’d prefer to just focus on what’s in front of me as far as who that person is and how they are with me. I’m sure I could be missing some things and it could be very illuminating, but it’s just never been a huge interest of mine.
That said, if people volunteer tons of stuff I’m definitely going to judge it in the sense I will form an opinion, but I don’t think I’m entitled or owed anything as far as someone’s past. Like if a guy brags about being with over 100 people, I’m pretty turned off by that and tend to no longer feel attracted but not in an angry or disappointed way, just kind of oh we’re not compatible way. I also don’t want to hear a partners super detailed stories of sex with other people, I think that violates the others privacy and it’s off putting to me.
I never asked about it 🤷🏻♀️
I do care if they were overly promiscuous. I feel it reflects a casual attitude toward sex which doesn’t align with how I feel. A blatant lack of sexual discipline can also come from validation seeking and impulsiveness, which are qualities I don’t seek either. Idc if sex was in a committed relationship (whether it lasted 6 months or 6 years) but one night stands, casual sex/hookups, fwb, etc. is bothersome to me. People can do as they please and doesn’t mean they’re a bad person but our attitudes on sex won’t be compatible. I also find it very troubling when a man has shown 0 sexual discipline but insists he’d only marry a woman with a low/er number. Look in the mirror, you’re “easy” dude lol.
I have some childhood SA trauma that caused me to have weird behaviors that resulted in a pretty high body count. I am super ashamed and embarrassed about it. But he was a very popular boy in high school and also has a fairly high body count. I actually like that because it makes me feel less ashamed. I wish I had respected my body and not done all that but I know he doesn’t judge me and it healed me so much
Couldn’t care less. We met and married our 40s and we’re in our 60s now. We’re extremely happy too.
I don’t care about his sexual history, but if he did porn that would be a deal breaker for me, so I wouldn’t have pursued a relationship with him. Not that it would change who he is as a person, but I don’t know if I’d feel comfortable with videos of my SO having sex with someone else being out there online where ANYONE could find them.
Thinking about it, I don’t know much about my partners sexual history. I’ve never really been bothered to ask? He has told me stories about people he’s hooked up with and shit, but it’s not like I know his body count or anything.
I enjoy hearing about it.
We are honest with each other about our past relationships and experiences. My husband has a pretty big sexual past. He had like more 30 partners precisely. Maybe more. In the same time I had a pretty wired sexual past too. So it was so easy for us to- two persons with crazy sexual past to get along, fell in love and be happy 😊
We experienced threesomes and moresomes, kinks, girls and boys, sex parties and more more more 🙈
I’ll have an issue being with someone who’s done one night stands, it just shows me that we don’t think the same way about intimacy.
Don’t know if and it’s none of my business. I know the age he was when he lost his virginity and that’s about it
I don’t really care. I’ve had partners who slept around quite a bit, and partners for whom I was the first or second person they were with. The only things I care about are that they’re honest, loyal, and clean of any STIs/STDs.
Bonus points if I never have to deal with any of their past partners.
Though, it would probably bother me if they were recognizable from their sexcapades and it was constantly being brought up, esp in public or in front of family/friends.