By changing how I think about femininity. I am a woman. I identify as a woman. I am afab and I am cis. By definition 100% of what I do is feminine. Whatever it is. Nothing can take away from my femininity, because I deem it so.
Nobody can give or take away your femininity or define it for you but you. It’s feminine to bench press 100 kg and to wear a pink dress while you are at it or with camo and a tank top while you are painting your nails. Femininity as a performance and something that can be taken away from you is something I so vehemently deny, nobody can say a word to me about it.
I always put bows in my hair (i dont leave the house without it ) , I only wear skirts or dresses (sometimes flaired jeans ) , a floral perfume and some jewellery
PERFUME. It’s my new hobby and I’m super into it – it’s super fun to play with different fragrances depending on how masc or femme my energy is any particular day.
Wearing a dress of my choice in a way I choose. Growing up dresses were for sunday and had to look modest and super feminine still. I hated it. Now I can choose how I want to look feminine.
Not letting men treat me like shit,I dont open doors, I dont pay, I let him plan the dates. If the man doesnāt do this I do not feel like a woman so Iāll pass.. Iām not his buddy and heās not my girlfriend. So technically hang around masculine men and youāll feel feminine. I dress the part, I look the part, I smell the part, keep it classy keep it reserved, keep it feminine, simple.
For me personally itās not much to do with appearances but just being confident in myself, drawing boundaries, not people pleasing, controlling my emotions, and giving back to community/ helping others HOWEVER Botox does help a lot too lol
*Wearing feminine clothing. Not necessarily dresses, just regular clothes cut feminine to show of curves. And maybe lighter, lively colors.
*I don’t really wear make up anymore, but other skin care, or rather self-care products that are a bit āØļøextraāØļø (pillow mist, body mist, perfume, hair styling sprays etc.)
*And DEFINITELY wearing nail polish āØļøš . I never feel as feminine as when having a good set of nails. It makes me conscious (but in a good way), cause it’s such an attention grabber.
It really depends on your lifestyle I guess. If you work and are surrounded by toxic people itās going to be hard. Femininity starts with having the right environment
Personaly, but i think that this is common for many other women, i feel femenine when i spend time with myself, make a good make up, manicure and so on
accessories!!!! earrings, bracelets, necklaces, piercings, watches, bows, scarves,etc. whats fun about being a woman is the ability to customize your character with little doodads!!
this seems so little, but letting my nails finally grow out. iāve always picked/ bite my nails but i finally ditched that habit. iām tall and already have large hands but long nails helps my hands finally look feminine.
To me being feminine is self care wether mentally or physically, experimenting with all types of hobbies and clothes you like and/or dreamed of trying, having strong friendship to experience womanhood with the purest form of platonic love, being whimsical if you feel like it, believe your intuition and donāt ever do something you feel forced to or hanging out with people who are disturbing your inner peace, be cringe dance sing run dilly dallying connect with nature and animales be gentle to the people that deserve it, have a well decorated place where you feel safe and at peace, be firm and mean to men when they deserve it, eat what you want, do your makeup or donāt, try new hairstyles etcā¦ I think being feminine is just living life as you like with your own terms, without caring about negative comments of those who uphold patriarchy.
Start doing things that make you feel good. For me I started wearing dresses and wearing my hair down now. I also started reading poetry by women and listening to music and dancing more as that was always something that really got me in touch with my feminine energy.
The answer wonāt be the same for everyone though.
Taking an āeverythingā shower; washing your hair, doing your full skincare routine, shaving, etc., then doing your hair and makeup full glam, and then dressing in your most feminine outfit paired with your favorite perfume, all while listening to your favorite girly pop playlist.
Having nicely shaped and well painted nails. Wearing clothes that emphasize my waist and hips, being around men I actually really like, taking good care of my skin, hair and body, having art of women and the female body in my house
Just taking care of myself, after a long thorough shower, drying my hair, putting on only a large shirt, music on the background while I’m doing my nails, i just feel soooo good and feminine
I sooo struggle with this. I am a big girl (taller than a lot of ladies, and Iām a size 14). For a long time I felt inherentlyā¦unfeminine. I love jewelry, love accessories, wear a lot of pink. I used to get my nails done, and spent sooo much time in the salon getting my hair highlighted every six weeks. I lost my hair last year due to chemotherapy and a stem cell transplant, and I realized how much of my feeling of femininity was tied to it. Itās slowly coming back, Iāve been wearing headbands and not to brag or anything, I finally have enough hair to clip back with tiny claw clips. Iām so excited, lol! I also love perfume. I think scents, too, are awesome. I have a lot, Chanel Coco Mademoiselle (I know, very basic) is my favorite. I spray it right before I go to bed. Itās just for me, something I enjoy, and I think thatās quite feminine itself.
Wearing sexy underwear, doing my makeup, masturbating, also to be honest, just wearing leggings and a tight top out will typically remind me that others find me hot š¤·š¾āāļøš¤š
let me preface this that I don’t like “feeling” feminine. People make too big of a deal about it and it gives too much attention. Don’t look at me, go away lol
Wearing a dress I guess. I have learned to like them around the house but I’m an generally not comfortable in them. The longer the better for me.
This is absolutely satire, as “feminine” is OBVIOUSLY not the opposite of strong and capable
I was just at the hardware store, picking boards out of the lumber yard for new garden beds. I was feeling strong and capable, knowing exactly what I needed and how to go about my project. And then I sneezed. And peed a little. Which very much made me feel like a MOTHER.
Self care that makes me feel comfortable and beautiful: face mask, hairstyle, light makeup, eyebrows done, nice (but not itchy) dress and bonus if I can get a lash lift!
Wearing outfits that just scream “me” (personality and suiting my look). I have a warm and kind energy so I may go for earthy colors, or just warm colors. Also styling or wearing my long hair down, or singing.
Sometimes looking after my little sister makes me feel more feminine as well. She called me mum once. (Long story. Living with dad).
Washing my bedding, taking an everything shower then putting on a cute matching set before getting into bed to crochet and watch something. Especially if I have my nails done and hair freshly dyed. Pretty simple, and Iām already pretty feminine, but god I feel like femininity itself on those nights.
As an ER Nurse, I wear scrubs and a headband every shift, no makeup/jewelry and no polish. Itās never been my style and I canāt wear it to work. But, when I get a pedicure and a fun color polish on my toes, I just feel pretty.
TBH, just by being me? I’m not a masculine looking woman so I’ve never had to do anything extra just to feel feminine. I just am… I’m not trying to brag but everything about me just is. I know this because someone once told me that everything about me was just so feminine – from my choice of clothes, style of makeup, the way I carry myself, my hairstyle; it actually nauseated me that I tried to be less feminine! I was annoyed that I was so feminine – I never wanted to be a girly girl!
I don’t even wear heels; I prefer sneakers but white lacoste types, I wear a lot of blue rather than pink and I hate flowers and bright colours. Maybe I just am because I’m very short and round? Or I project it without thinking about it. I think at the end of the day, if you’re comfortable and confident in your skin, you will embody what you want to be. And that can be feminine or whatever you’d like.
Understanding genders and gender fluidity, deciding if I want to feel feminine. Some days when I don’t want to feel feminine, no matter what I do or wear feels awkward. Other days when I feel feminine, no matter what I do or wear makes me feel feminine. It’s all about the state of mind I’m at and where I wanna direct my energy, I can’t force ut, just flow with the feeling
Bonding with other women & having fun and meaningful conversations together. I used to be really lonely as a teenager and didn’t quite fit in any girl groups in the high school, so now I’m especially grateful for my female friends.
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Spoiling myself food shopping skin care
By changing how I think about femininity. I am a woman. I identify as a woman. I am afab and I am cis. By definition 100% of what I do is feminine. Whatever it is. Nothing can take away from my femininity, because I deem it so.
Nobody can give or take away your femininity or define it for you but you. It’s feminine to bench press 100 kg and to wear a pink dress while you are at it or with camo and a tank top while you are painting your nails. Femininity as a performance and something that can be taken away from you is something I so vehemently deny, nobody can say a word to me about it.
Doing my makeup, hair and dressing up.
This might cop some flack, but literally wearing a dress.
Something i never did growing up, so I’ve done my fair share of tomboyish attire, time to switch it up.
Haters goanna hate but that’s how I feel š¤·āāļø
Wearing dresses, doing my hair & makeup, being flirtatious.
I always put bows in my hair (i dont leave the house without it ) , I only wear skirts or dresses (sometimes flaired jeans ) , a floral perfume and some jewellery
Hang out with my dad, brother, and my guy friendsš„°
Spoiling myself when Iām shopping, doing my hair, makeup, skincare, shaving my whole body, wearing dresses and heels and baking for fun
maintaining boundaries and learning to accept help and gestures.
Small details like painting my nails or wearing certain jewelry.
PERFUME. It’s my new hobby and I’m super into it – it’s super fun to play with different fragrances depending on how masc or femme my energy is any particular day.
Wearing a dress of my choice in a way I choose. Growing up dresses were for sunday and had to look modest and super feminine still. I hated it. Now I can choose how I want to look feminine.
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Not letting men treat me like shit,I dont open doors, I dont pay, I let him plan the dates. If the man doesnāt do this I do not feel like a woman so Iāll pass.. Iām not his buddy and heās not my girlfriend. So technically hang around masculine men and youāll feel feminine. I dress the part, I look the part, I smell the part, keep it classy keep it reserved, keep it feminine, simple.
Skincare. I love a good exfoliate in the bath, moisturising, my toner spray for my face
For me personally itās not much to do with appearances but just being confident in myself, drawing boundaries, not people pleasing, controlling my emotions, and giving back to community/ helping others HOWEVER Botox does help a lot too lol
Throwing on blush.
wearing perfume that makes me feel soft and powerful at the same time
Skirts, crop tops, curled hair. Maybe cliche but idgaf because it makes me feel sexy
Painting my nails
*Wearing feminine clothing. Not necessarily dresses, just regular clothes cut feminine to show of curves. And maybe lighter, lively colors.
*I don’t really wear make up anymore, but other skin care, or rather self-care products that are a bit āØļøextraāØļø (pillow mist, body mist, perfume, hair styling sprays etc.)
*And DEFINITELY wearing nail polish āØļøš . I never feel as feminine as when having a good set of nails. It makes me conscious (but in a good way), cause it’s such an attention grabber.
Getting my hair, nails and makeup done
having medium-long hair
wearing cute or risquƩ bra and panties
It really depends on your lifestyle I guess. If you work and are surrounded by toxic people itās going to be hard. Femininity starts with having the right environment
Personaly, but i think that this is common for many other women, i feel femenine when i spend time with myself, make a good make up, manicure and so on
accessories!!!! earrings, bracelets, necklaces, piercings, watches, bows, scarves,etc. whats fun about being a woman is the ability to customize your character with little doodads!!
this seems so little, but letting my nails finally grow out. iāve always picked/ bite my nails but i finally ditched that habit. iām tall and already have large hands but long nails helps my hands finally look feminine.
To me being feminine is self care wether mentally or physically, experimenting with all types of hobbies and clothes you like and/or dreamed of trying, having strong friendship to experience womanhood with the purest form of platonic love, being whimsical if you feel like it, believe your intuition and donāt ever do something you feel forced to or hanging out with people who are disturbing your inner peace, be cringe dance sing run dilly dallying connect with nature and animales be gentle to the people that deserve it, have a well decorated place where you feel safe and at peace, be firm and mean to men when they deserve it, eat what you want, do your makeup or donāt, try new hairstyles etcā¦ I think being feminine is just living life as you like with your own terms, without caring about negative comments of those who uphold patriarchy.
Itās the ritual of skincare, pampering myself with masks, peels and potions. The act of putting on my āfaceā.
Doing the full body skincare routine in and after a shower!
Wearing matching lingerie under a baggy sweater. No one sees it, but I know. Thatās the kind of femininity that feels powerful.
Wearing pretty underwear. Bonus if it matches bra.
*any creeps who try to DM will immediately get blocked
Earrings! Iām not sure what it is about earrings but they make me feel girly. I keep tiny studs/pearl earrings in my ears often.
Start doing things that make you feel good. For me I started wearing dresses and wearing my hair down now. I also started reading poetry by women and listening to music and dancing more as that was always something that really got me in touch with my feminine energy.
The answer wonāt be the same for everyone though.
Feminine clothing and make-up, pretty jewelry, and perfume! Always, always play up your best feature (mine is my lips š)
Dressing cute and using products on my skin. Lol
Taking an āeverythingā shower; washing your hair, doing your full skincare routine, shaving, etc., then doing your hair and makeup full glam, and then dressing in your most feminine outfit paired with your favorite perfume, all while listening to your favorite girly pop playlist.
Having nicely shaped and well painted nails. Wearing clothes that emphasize my waist and hips, being around men I actually really like, taking good care of my skin, hair and body, having art of women and the female body in my house
Painting my nails, taking everything showers, giving my hair a blow out, wearing flowy dresses.Ā
I am female so everything I do is feminine. I live as my authentic self and don’t put on an act for anyone.
Ovulation. Always works for me
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Getting my hair and nails done
Lipstick and mascara
Just taking care of myself, after a long thorough shower, drying my hair, putting on only a large shirt, music on the background while I’m doing my nails, i just feel soooo good and feminine
I sooo struggle with this. I am a big girl (taller than a lot of ladies, and Iām a size 14). For a long time I felt inherentlyā¦unfeminine. I love jewelry, love accessories, wear a lot of pink. I used to get my nails done, and spent sooo much time in the salon getting my hair highlighted every six weeks. I lost my hair last year due to chemotherapy and a stem cell transplant, and I realized how much of my feeling of femininity was tied to it. Itās slowly coming back, Iāve been wearing headbands and not to brag or anything, I finally have enough hair to clip back with tiny claw clips. Iām so excited, lol! I also love perfume. I think scents, too, are awesome. I have a lot, Chanel Coco Mademoiselle (I know, very basic) is my favorite. I spray it right before I go to bed. Itās just for me, something I enjoy, and I think thatās quite feminine itself.
Walking on the skulls of my enemiesĀ
Wearing jewelry and make up, keeping my nails neat and clean.
I enjoy taking pride on how I look and how I dress!
Wearing sexy underwear, doing my makeup, masturbating, also to be honest, just wearing leggings and a tight top out will typically remind me that others find me hot š¤·š¾āāļøš¤š
Shaving lmao. Which only happens in the summer and only if Iām wearing shorts.
let me preface this that I don’t like “feeling” feminine. People make too big of a deal about it and it gives too much attention. Don’t look at me, go away lol
Wearing a dress I guess. I have learned to like them around the house but I’m an generally not comfortable in them. The longer the better for me.
Taking care of my hair and skin = eating healthier and seeing results š
When I wear summer dresses, when i curl my hair, when Iām wearing a really nice perfume, when i listen to really girly pop songs.
This is absolutely satire, as “feminine” is OBVIOUSLY not the opposite of strong and capable
I was just at the hardware store, picking boards out of the lumber yard for new garden beds. I was feeling strong and capable, knowing exactly what I needed and how to go about my project. And then I sneezed. And peed a little. Which very much made me feel like a MOTHER.
Wearing sundresses seems to do it.
Self care that makes me feel comfortable and beautiful: face mask, hairstyle, light makeup, eyebrows done, nice (but not itchy) dress and bonus if I can get a lash lift!
I like to take care of my nails and always have them painted.
Wearing outfits that just scream “me” (personality and suiting my look). I have a warm and kind energy so I may go for earthy colors, or just warm colors. Also styling or wearing my long hair down, or singing.
Sometimes looking after my little sister makes me feel more feminine as well. She called me mum once. (Long story. Living with dad).
Washing my bedding, taking an everything shower then putting on a cute matching set before getting into bed to crochet and watch something. Especially if I have my nails done and hair freshly dyed. Pretty simple, and Iām already pretty feminine, but god I feel like femininity itself on those nights.
Spoiling myself. Buying make up, clothes, purses, skin care products. I didnāt get to enjoy a lot of my younger years so Iām making up for it now.
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As an ER Nurse, I wear scrubs and a headband every shift, no makeup/jewelry and no polish. Itās never been my style and I canāt wear it to work. But, when I get a pedicure and a fun color polish on my toes, I just feel pretty.
TBH, just by being me? I’m not a masculine looking woman so I’ve never had to do anything extra just to feel feminine. I just am… I’m not trying to brag but everything about me just is. I know this because someone once told me that everything about me was just so feminine – from my choice of clothes, style of makeup, the way I carry myself, my hairstyle; it actually nauseated me that I tried to be less feminine! I was annoyed that I was so feminine – I never wanted to be a girly girl!
I don’t even wear heels; I prefer sneakers but white lacoste types, I wear a lot of blue rather than pink and I hate flowers and bright colours. Maybe I just am because I’m very short and round? Or I project it without thinking about it. I think at the end of the day, if you’re comfortable and confident in your skin, you will embody what you want to be. And that can be feminine or whatever you’d like.
Understanding genders and gender fluidity, deciding if I want to feel feminine. Some days when I don’t want to feel feminine, no matter what I do or wear feels awkward. Other days when I feel feminine, no matter what I do or wear makes me feel feminine. It’s all about the state of mind I’m at and where I wanna direct my energy, I can’t force ut, just flow with the feeling
Bonding with other women & having fun and meaningful conversations together. I used to be really lonely as a teenager and didn’t quite fit in any girl groups in the high school, so now I’m especially grateful for my female friends.