My brain goes through the insanity motions of “do I look weird, does he think I’m attractive, is he disgusted, am I doing something weird, is he gonna walk up here, oh God I hope he doesn’t come over, is he mad” but my active conscious is just telling me to chill out through it all lol
Depends on how he is looking at me. That said, if I could choose to be invisible to the entire male population minus like 10 exceptions I would happily do that.
I have 2 young kids and feel like I’m a hot mess of a human every time I leave my house. If someone looked at me, I’d assume I had knots in my hair, or a half eaten apple falling out of my pocket, or baby wipes falling out if my backpack that I can’t be arsed to zip all the way when I’m in a rush.
Depends, is he staring? Smiling kindly? Gawking? Staring into space in my direction? These women who are saying that it depends what he looks like are obnoxious imo. It’s the nature and intent of the look that determine how I feel about it, not what the guy looks like.
Just a casual look? I probably wouldn’t notice or think anything of it. Staring, though, is rude and I would be worried he is going to come talk to me.
Often I get really nervous. You never know how far that goes.
Sometimes I feel flattered. Especially if I really like my outfit for the day. But there is ALWAYS unease. Kinda waiting for the day I become “invisible.”
I don’t even notice unless it’s very obvious. And if it’s that obvious they’re usually trying to figure out how old I am and if the baby I have in my arms is mine or not.
I stare at people all the time because I like looking at how they did their hair and clothes and I enjoy how people’s facial features and general appearance look. Kind of like admiring an artwork. Idk why but these things really amuse me. I think it makes most people uncomfortable to be stared at though, so I try to not stare too long or too obviously.
So if I see someone else looking at me, I assume they’re doing the same thing without ill intent.
Cautious. But it depends on the situation, the setting, etc. There is no set feeling anyone will have. If a guy is looking at me at the bus stop at 9pm or even worse while I’m ON the bus, I get extremely cautious and alert. Doesn’t matter what the guy looks like. Its terribly uncomfortable. If I’m on campus and a guy looks at me, I’m assuming it’s a passing glance. If it’s someone I find attractive in a comfortable setting I start wondering if I look good today.
If he’s attractive, I’m into it. I will look back as a way to encourage him to talk to me. If hea unattractive, I look away in a pointed way. If he keeps looking after that, I give him mean disinterested looks.
Personally, I don’t like it, I mean looks that last long enough. I want to feel like a person who is minding her own business, and not like a prey, since they usually look aggressively. It’s not flattering, it’s just a display of hierarchy and power.
Depends how , if its a creepy way id hate it and feel uncomfortable especially as im a child , if its a smile ,ill smile back and ill probably start talking to them depending on there age and where we r (on a walk ALWAYS if somewhere busy probably not) i have a bf so if there an adult ill talk to them and have a convo i wouldn’t talk to a teenage guy tho but id talk to a child I always do there so cute
If it’s a respectful glance or two, or perhaps more sustained eye contact after I keep glancing back at him, I’m flattered for the attention. Regardless of whether i find them attractive or not. It’s a fun flirtation.
If they are leering in a creepy way, like staring intimidatingly without looking away, roving over my body continuously with their eyes without a break, without any sense of social norms, then I’m DISGUSTED and literally all I can think is fuck you you horrible nasty man. That type of aggressive and intimidating sexual attention makes me feel afraid and I know some bad men get off on making women feel that way. Ugh. Worse if I am alone at night or in an isolated area literally LEAVE ME ALONE
I guess it depends. I’ve had a guy stare at me with blatant intensity that I just tried to ignore until someone else went up to him and told him to stop, saying he was making the lady uncomfortable.
He defended himself, saying “he wasn’t anywhere near me”. I just smiled at the Good Samaritan and said I was leaving anyway. It was creepy.
But if a guy looks over a few times, or we lock eyes and he smiled? I’d probably blush. Not that that particular scenario has ever happened.
Depends on the context and how he’s behaving. If he’s acting like a normal person behaving appropriately and paying me no more attention than he is anyone else, then fine. If he’s ogling, leering, staring, or being inappropriate, then I’m going to feel like he’s gross and a creep.
A look doesnt guarantee compatibility or that theyre even single. Its purely a shallow reaction.
I get asked for my number often. Rarely does it ever make it to a real date due to their inconsistency and informality. I get asked out randomly by text late at night, and then wont hear a thing for a few days to weeks.
I’ve lost 180lbs in the last two years, so this is wildly new to me – just the concept of being perceived. I never know how to feel about it, but mostly, I just feel exposed.
Probably nothing, I just get on with what I’m doing. I look at guys and gals while I’m out and about.
If I’m out out I want everyone looking at me, I didn’t get ready for nothing. If I’m shopping and they’re looking at me while I’m in sweatpants with messy hair and smudged glasses I’ll take it as a compliment.
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Flattered if he is attractive. Amused if he is young.
My brain goes through the insanity motions of “do I look weird, does he think I’m attractive, is he disgusted, am I doing something weird, is he gonna walk up here, oh God I hope he doesn’t come over, is he mad” but my active conscious is just telling me to chill out through it all lol
Depends on the dude and depends on the look
If it ever happens, I don’t notice. I’m focused on whoever I’m with, which is usually my fiancé. Other men are invisible to me.
Depends on the look. If it’s a casual glance, I may feel flattered. If it’s a look of lust, I feel unsafe and disgusted.
Depends on how he is looking at me. That said, if I could choose to be invisible to the entire male population minus like 10 exceptions I would happily do that.
Irritated lmao
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Probably ugly/fat/insecure, tbh
Uneasy. I feel like a small glance back and they’ll come try to talk to me and I don’t want that
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I have 2 young kids and feel like I’m a hot mess of a human every time I leave my house. If someone looked at me, I’d assume I had knots in my hair, or a half eaten apple falling out of my pocket, or baby wipes falling out if my backpack that I can’t be arsed to zip all the way when I’m in a rush.
I’d rather he looked elsewhere. I’m done with relationships. Wish I were gay.
Depends on the look. Some men stare aggressively and with an undertone of violence. That makes me very uncomfortable. The majority are that.
Gentle smile and moving on? Sure why not, we all people watch sometimes.
I don’t really care
Depends, is he staring? Smiling kindly? Gawking? Staring into space in my direction? These women who are saying that it depends what he looks like are obnoxious imo. It’s the nature and intent of the look that determine how I feel about it, not what the guy looks like.
Just a casual look? I probably wouldn’t notice or think anything of it. Staring, though, is rude and I would be worried he is going to come talk to me.
Uncomfortable
Often I get really nervous. You never know how far that goes.
Sometimes I feel flattered. Especially if I really like my outfit for the day. But there is ALWAYS unease. Kinda waiting for the day I become “invisible.”
I don’t even notice unless it’s very obvious. And if it’s that obvious they’re usually trying to figure out how old I am and if the baby I have in my arms is mine or not.
Honestly…. I don’t like being stared at so it makes me uncomfortable
I don’t care. They look at all women and it’s not flattering at all to me. I go right on with my day
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I stare at people all the time because I like looking at how they did their hair and clothes and I enjoy how people’s facial features and general appearance look. Kind of like admiring an artwork. Idk why but these things really amuse me. I think it makes most people uncomfortable to be stared at though, so I try to not stare too long or too obviously.
So if I see someone else looking at me, I assume they’re doing the same thing without ill intent.
I eat that shit up for breakfast, lunch and dinner. They can look all they want, I know I’m a babe; just don’t approach me.
Cautious. But it depends on the situation, the setting, etc. There is no set feeling anyone will have. If a guy is looking at me at the bus stop at 9pm or even worse while I’m ON the bus, I get extremely cautious and alert. Doesn’t matter what the guy looks like. Its terribly uncomfortable. If I’m on campus and a guy looks at me, I’m assuming it’s a passing glance. If it’s someone I find attractive in a comfortable setting I start wondering if I look good today.
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it would be kind of awkward if every single guy I encountered turned their heads away from me as soon as I was in eye shot.
Usually flattered. If they’re staring, I feel uncomfortable, but I’d feel uncomfortable if anyone stared at me.
If he’s attractive, I’m into it. I will look back as a way to encourage him to talk to me. If hea unattractive, I look away in a pointed way. If he keeps looking after that, I give him mean disinterested looks.
really uncomfortable. idc how he looks, what “gaze” he looked at me with. it’s just high alert after that, i really don’t like it.
on the contrary i might enjoy a woman’s gaze on me, that I might’ve dressed up nice enough to be stared at.
Personally, I don’t like it, I mean looks that last long enough. I want to feel like a person who is minding her own business, and not like a prey, since they usually look aggressively. It’s not flattering, it’s just a display of hierarchy and power.
Whenever someone looks at me, I usually feel embarrassed because I assume there’s something wrong with me.
Depends how , if its a creepy way id hate it and feel uncomfortable especially as im a child , if its a smile ,ill smile back and ill probably start talking to them depending on there age and where we r (on a walk ALWAYS if somewhere busy probably not) i have a bf so if there an adult ill talk to them and have a convo i wouldn’t talk to a teenage guy tho but id talk to a child I always do there so cute
Absolutely hate it. Don’t look at me please.
I don’t feel any type of way. I look at people all the time without even thinking. It doesn’t mean anything
If it’s a respectful glance or two, or perhaps more sustained eye contact after I keep glancing back at him, I’m flattered for the attention. Regardless of whether i find them attractive or not. It’s a fun flirtation.
If they are leering in a creepy way, like staring intimidatingly without looking away, roving over my body continuously with their eyes without a break, without any sense of social norms, then I’m DISGUSTED and literally all I can think is fuck you you horrible nasty man. That type of aggressive and intimidating sexual attention makes me feel afraid and I know some bad men get off on making women feel that way. Ugh. Worse if I am alone at night or in an isolated area literally LEAVE ME ALONE
Depends on the look. If it’s a polite glance, fine. If it’s a stare-down like he’s trying to read my soul… sir, blink twice and move along 😅
I guess it depends. I’ve had a guy stare at me with blatant intensity that I just tried to ignore until someone else went up to him and told him to stop, saying he was making the lady uncomfortable.
He defended himself, saying “he wasn’t anywhere near me”. I just smiled at the Good Samaritan and said I was leaving anyway. It was creepy.
But if a guy looks over a few times, or we lock eyes and he smiled? I’d probably blush. Not that that particular scenario has ever happened.
I get anxious
Depends if they are being creepy or not. 😂
Ah this is too vague, it depends on the look but 99.9% of the time I feel nothing
I’ve never paid attention. What I don’t know doesn’t affect me!
I feel weird. I dont like being perceived except by my significant other.
Tbh the same as what I think when I catch a girl looking at me. “Are they lookin at me…” cause my eyesight is kinda shit.
Depends on the context and how he’s behaving. If he’s acting like a normal person behaving appropriately and paying me no more attention than he is anyone else, then fine. If he’s ogling, leering, staring, or being inappropriate, then I’m going to feel like he’s gross and a creep.
I don’t like it. And it irritates me when men think their attention is a compliment.
I feel nothing.
A look doesnt guarantee compatibility or that theyre even single. Its purely a shallow reaction.
I get asked for my number often. Rarely does it ever make it to a real date due to their inconsistency and informality. I get asked out randomly by text late at night, and then wont hear a thing for a few days to weeks.
Sometimes I feel flattered by it, sometimes I feel angry, sometimes I feel scared. It really depends on a lot of factors.
I don’t think anything or pay them any attention lol. it happens constantly, they look at every young semi-attractive woman who passes by them 🤷♀️
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I’ve lost 180lbs in the last two years, so this is wildly new to me – just the concept of being perceived. I never know how to feel about it, but mostly, I just feel exposed.
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Creeped out
They don’t look 😂
Probably nothing, I just get on with what I’m doing. I look at guys and gals while I’m out and about.
If I’m out out I want everyone looking at me, I didn’t get ready for nothing. If I’m shopping and they’re looking at me while I’m in sweatpants with messy hair and smudged glasses I’ll take it as a compliment.