Some say men lose interest when a woman becomes too emotionally available or ‘clingy.’ Is there truth to that from your experience, or is it just some made up shi
How do you feel when a woman is very expressive with her love—like she gives you lots of attention, affection, or initiates closeness often?
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Send her my way please.
I like it a lot
There’s a difference between clingy and controlling
Perhaps it would be true for my teen self (a girl who kept acting clingy exhausted my introverted grumpy loner self, and I asked her to leave me alone).
Nowadays, I would try to gradually match the girl’s energy. I am not naturally touchy-feely (I don’t want to be intrusive myself), but if a girl started it, I would enjoy becoming more and more hug-prone. I am still introverted though, so she’d likely be more clingy than me, and would still tire me out. Probably. I think.
Wifey. I would reciprocate that energy tenfold.
I found that when I was expressive with my feelings, it would push women away. Some meeting someone like that would be great, given that I feel safe with them and we have good chemistry
People can have different love languages. Words, acts of service, etc.
That said, the subtle thing I find with lots of attention and availability is that sometimes it isn’t love but control or fear of abandonment (which is a form of emotional unavailability). By being on all the time he/she may feel like they are preventing the other from leaving them.
I like a partner who is present but not smothering.
I have no idea what puts it in Women’s heads that men don’t like this kinda stuff.
That sounds lovely.
There’s a point for me when lots of attention becomes too much and is overbearing. If I had to pick between the two extremes, I’d rather be single than have so much attention directed my way
Yes.
“Wow, a woman who likes me and doesn’t make eveything needlessly cryptic and confusing! What a novelty!”
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It’s great and part of a healthy relationship.
Scared. It feels like one of those movie scenes where a snake is circling your body.
I feel that she will want something in return. Also if she is developing feelings and expressing it so quickly, I have to somehow match it or the emotional aftermath she gives me will be a big hassle. There is no free lunch.
If she’s a good match without it, the extra stuff is just icing on the cake. If she was the one that pursued first and you weren’t initially into her, it can be a little smothering.
God. I dated a woman like this. She was amazing! Had sex for the first time and it was terrible. Felt nothing. I broke up with her a couple days after. But I still wonder sometimes if I should have just stayed with her for the compliments, validation and how safe and desired I felt at all times. Like shit. It was amazing.
I want it. I don’t want to play around. If you’re interested, show it. I’ll always do the same.
There can be some truth to that. There’s no harm in being close or wanting to spend time together, but sometimes we need space. Personally, I need to take a little reset sometimes and do basic upkeep things that I just dont get to do when I’m with my girlfriend because I’m focused on other stuff with her. It can help to show an interest in his hobbies if you want to spend more time with him without seeming too clingy.
There is close to zero truth to this. It’s yet another of the crazy ideas women made up about men. I think it’s partly projection; partly just plain delusion.
It’s usually the opposite. Had a reasonably good couple of dates with a woman recently, but she showed almost no emotion at all. Had to admit that was a no go for me.
There is a big caveat to all of these answers. Men love this, if it’s from a woman they like.
When I’m stationary, I love it. If I’m walking not so much.
Happy but suspicious. Probably more than willing to ride along with that situation while it lasts, because odds are good that behaviour from her towards me won’t last long.
Too good to be true for my touch deprived self.
What you described doesn’t suggest clingy. As long as she has her own life.
I need this in life.
That sounds awesome to me!
Yeah that was the case for me. The relationship became too overwhelming and I felt smothered.
Also it felt like she was compensating for her own insecurity and not respecting herself, which turned out to be true.
Nothing wrong with being affectionate, but if it’s coming from a place of desperation and fear of abandonment, then it’s off-putting.
Men react the same as women here. If someone is very affectionate and you love them and want affection from them then you’ll love it. If you don’t feel that way about the person you’re not going to enjoy it
Wonderful.
I’ll let you know when it happens
Those some people are morons.
Once you learn to love yourself it’s easier when you’re emotionally available. Wish I had figured that out a lot earlier in life
Who on earth said that!?!!!?!
Almost like a push-pull reactions. Over done, it scares the hell of some men when they are not emotionally aligned