If you went out somewhere and another woman kept staring at your significant other, dancing to try to get their attention would you say something to her or let it go?
How do you feel when other women stare at your significant other?
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If you went out somewhere and another woman kept staring at your significant other, dancing to try to get their attention would you say something to her or let it go?
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If they do, I don’t even notice. I’m focused on our time together. They wouldn’t be a threat anyway.
He’s a grown man that knows how to use his words. If he’s uncomfortable, he can address it. It’s not like he’s my property to guard or something.
I’m not a jealous person, if you want to flirt with my husband fill yer boots. I trust him to come home with me.
Since I can trust him 100%, there’s no need to say anything. I might get a little closer to him, and if the woman in question is someone he knows, chances are he’d then introduce me (he would quite likely be clueless until I point it out to him on the way home).
Let it go? I dont even bother. Women have hit on my husband in front of me and we just give each other a funny look like what the heck just happened?????? It has happened to me too. We don’t think much of it.
If he gave the interaction attention, my issue would be with my husband and not the other person.
As long as they’re not making him uncomfortable I don’t care! If they’re doing something that is making him uncomfortable then I will say something.
Neutral to embarrassed for her. If she wants to make a fool out of herself by throwing herself at my partner, she’s welcome to fail miserably and get shut down immediately by my partner.
My partner isn’t so fickle and inconstant that a random flirty woman is any sort of annoyance or threat to our relationship. If they were, I’d seriously reconsider the relationship.
Shit, I stare at him too. Honestly I really don’t care lol
He’s a good looking man, so my feelings depend solely on his reaction. And he’s never done anything to make me feel uncomfortable/disrespected.
I’m not sure I really notice that
If they could take him they can have him 🥰🥰
I love it, it’s like silently saying “Haha, he’s mine, not yours”
i don’t really care unless the energy is reciprocated which it’s not
I’m too busy staring at him too to even notice other people because yes, he is damn fine! Thankfully he’s too busy staring at me too to notice the woman trying to get his attention.
I’m not a jealous woman, and I’d probably point it out to him in a joking way, then whisper in his ear “I’m not surprised she noticed you. But guess what… I’m the one taking you home tonight”.
That’s hot lol because he’s a good looking man. She’d never get the attention she wanted but she can try and it’ll be fun
Let it go. I can’t control what another person does. Let her stare. I trust my SO. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t be with him.
I’d let it go. He’s gorgeous so I can’t blame anyone for looking. Also, I trust him and know he wouldn’t do anything to hurt me or damage our marriage.
Me to him: “Psssst…have her buy you a drink.”
don’t know that I notice but if I ever do my reaction is generally sorta smug bc she’s really pretty and she’s mine hehehehehe
I don’t care. Heck I’d let her flirt with him…he wouldn’t know what’s happening nor would he ever do anything…I’d be laughing because it would be so awkward.
No, we’d piss ourselves laughing at her 😆🤣
If it doesn’t bother him it doesn’t bother me. Honestly I kinda like hearing about it in a maybe weird voyeuristic way. We have an open relationship, which we’re both too lazy to act on, but it keeps the trust and communication very open and easy. Neither of us are the jealous type.
I like it when he gets some fans. It’s a little weird though when women get a little slack jawed in front of me and start pretending I’m not there. But I don’t stop them because I don’t want to embarrass them.
Eh I’d probably just French kiss him in front of her.
I wish they did. I don’t think I notice if they do but I’d love to catch someone staring sometime
Id wonder what food he spilled on himself
Could careless. I know he is sexy. I get it. 😜
Staring is pretty mild. My husband gets hit on almost every time we go out to clubs or concerts . He has been groped, fondled, had his ass grabbed , unsolicited hugs and many blatant sexual overtures all rightin front of me. He always totally shuts them down and firmly encourage them to move on. At first it really bothered me and I even went as far smacking the one who grabbed his ass. Now after 10 years and two kids I just laugh at them. They can keep trying but they are not getting anywhere.
Doubt I’d notice. Wouldn’t say anything. Let her act a fool. If you’re secure in your relationship someone staring or whatever shouldn’t matter at all. It’s also just an assumption that they are into your sig other unless you ask them straight up.
I suppose it would depend on how the man I am with is behaving. If what she is doing is getting his attention, then have fun and good night, I’m heading home, alone.
Honestly don’t care. If she stares too much maybe he will notice first and whisper to me that there is some woman looking at us a lot. I will joke about her being jealous of us having fun and move on
We’re both conventionally attractive, and only have eyes for each other, so generally we’re oblivious to these advances. If we even noticed it happening, we would both ignore the attempt intentionally hard, so that the person is left making a fool of themselves, and then we’d kiss and be affectionate with each other. It’s hilarious for everyone who isn’t the flirt-or. And if they still don’t get the hint, the one who they’re trying to oust gets good and loud, and makes it crystal clear that they are messing where they aren’t allowed. And if they refuse to listen to that person, the target of their affection backs up the partner. If it somehow gets to this point, usually other members of the general public have gotten involved, because shoving your way into an obviously closed relationship is never acceptable.
I get it. I know he’s fine. But he’s also mine and I’m his, and I know he won’t pay her any mind so it really doesn’t matter. If she makes a play at him, she’ll find out real quick that she doesn’t have a shot lol.
I would ignore her. I trust him and he knows how to handle himself. He would probably secretly laugh at her.
I would wonder why I’m paying so much attention to who other people are staring at, then realize that in order for me to notice, I would have to be staring down this other woman which would make me equally as strange as her. Then I would find better things to do with my time because insecurity is unattractive af.
If a random woman staring at my partner were to be a threat to our relationship, I’d have no business being in it.
That said… I’d feel a sense of pride. Stare all you want… I know he’s gorgeous. 🙂
I wouldn’t say anything. My boyfriend is stunning. And he only has eyes for me.
Lowkey disrespected by the woman if I’m standing right there, but I get it
I don’t really notice stuff like this because I don’t spend much time looking at strangers/monitoring what they’re doing.
If I notice, I just get a “hell yeah my baby is hot!” feeling and move on.
I’ve never noticed
This sounds like some insecure high school shit. Stare and dance all ya want.
I can’t blame her, the man is fine. I know that he’ll shut her down if she tries anything so I’m not worried.
I would just feel embarrassed for her for trying so hard to get the attention of a man who isn’t single lol. I wouldn’t say anything to her, I would just continue to be very lovey/PDA with my partner.
Flattered. The rule we have is you can see but you can’t touch. You can look at him as much as you want at the end of the day he is going home and to bed with me.
It’s only happened a couple of times but my husband and I laugh about it. We’re pretty secure in our relationship that we know nothing will separate us or cause us to be jealous. We each take it as a compliment really.
He’s beautiful and cool and completely demisexual. Other people appreciating him doesn’t bother me, I know I’m his home
He’s handsome, funny and intelligent. I don’t blame them.
Probably wouldn’t do anything about staring, but doing anything more to try to get his attention is disrespectful tbh. I’m not worried about him but girl who tf do you think I am that I’m just gonna accept you doing all that?
Means she’s got good taste, good for her. Who cares lmao
So proud. He’s so handsome 🥰
I trust my man, first of all. I do get irritated but what matters to me the most is how my man decides to act.
I think it’s funny because there’s no chance he’s even remotely interested. He’d only intervene if she makes a move.
This would not bother me at all.
He always lights up the men. I love it.
It’s kinda funny and I feel pity for the woman…. Sorry he’s mine ~
Oh, he’s hot, so it happens alot. He’s also signal blind so holding up a neonsign wouldn’t help them. And I don’t blame them for looking, I do it too
Let it go, especially if it’s obvious that you’re a couple. She’s just insecure and looking for attention.
I don’t think I would say anything. Just smile then put his really big hand up to my face and kiss his palm
I’ll feel really sorry for that woman. I’ll laugh to myself and maybe hold his hand, wrap my arms around him or even kiss him if she isn’t getting the message
My husband is an absolute smoke show so I don’t blame them for looking, but I don’t pay it anymore mind than that either. It neither excites me or angers me.
I know exactly how lucky I am to have him (we’ve been married for 15 years) and I do try to show him daily, as he does for me.
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I’ll be honest, when I was younger (24), it did bother me. But as I’ve grown older(32), I just take it as a good sign that I got me a handsome one. Also, like everyone has eyes and they are technically allowed to look LOL weird logic I know but I’ve convinced myself of it and how not to be insecure
I would ask if she’s bi so maybe we can have a little party.. 😂😂😂😂
Sometimes I don’t notice until they get closer to him and or try to talk to him when I’m close by. We were at a wedding at the beginning of the month and this bridesmaid kept trying to talk to him and got really close to him when he went to the open bar. I don’t get jealous cause at the end of the day he’s paying my bills, calling/texting me throughout the day and pulling my hair out of the crack of his ass. 😂 She can try but that guy only has eyes for me.
Good luck with that I’d say. We adore each other 😄
shrug It’s a them thing. I’m secure in my marriage (most of the time), and completely trust my partner – I know he’s not into the casual fling thing. If there’s someone who catches his eye and he wants to explore it, then we have a conversation. We’re monogamous at the moment, but still.
Honestly, most of the time it makes me happy he’s getting checked out! Heck yeah, he’s a sexy beast! 😉
Territorial but also, flattered if I’m being honest.
I’ve been noticing it more often now, he’s aged into middle age really well. It bothers me but I can let it go pretty easily. He’s never done anything to encourage them.
I don’t notice or care. If they can take him, they can have him!
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I think I’d probably laugh because when I’m out with my husband, if he’s not scrolling on his phone, he’s gazing lovingly at me so she’d be acting pretty foolish for no response. I would tell him at the end of the night to let him feel good about himself
Years ago my husband had a co-worker who threw herself at him even to the point of moving to our neighborhood. Nothing subtle about it. We still laugh and tell stories about it from time to time. You either trust that he’s committed to you and you have a true friendship, or don’t bother to have a relationship.
Lol I’d be flattered that they’re into him.. it’s his actions that matter not theirs.. it happens to my husband a lot just the other day some random dude asked why his hot wife wasn’t at the gym with him and he liked that he’s the one who comes home to me and I’m faithful.
It would be the same for me
If my partner doesn’t pay it attention it doesn’t bother me. If my partner entertains it, nahhh. Lol
Forget about women, they are actually very respectful of me. But gay guys really act as if I am invisible while hitting on my husband..he is absolutely clueless (straight) and I am just watching their attempt all flabbergasted.
Makes me think: ‘yeah, he’s gorgeous and all mine’. And then I tell him someone was checking him out, and he gets all flustered. It’s cute as heck. He never notices people looking at him, and it makes me happy to see him happy. We all like to feel attractive. We’re secure like that.
Staring is no problem, (I stare).
I’ve had it happen a few times with my husband. I think it’s funny and entertaining. I trust him, so it doesn’t matter how hard they try. Honestly, it’s flattering and an ego boost….like yeah….you like what you see??? Well he’s all mine!!!
It has only happened once and both of us were like that was weird. More guys hit on me or stare but I politely ask them to stop. I focus on time together.
” enjoying the view, ain’t?”
Shocked & happy. I love my husband, but he tries his best to look like a homeless Rob Zombie. Anywhoo, I love it when people want what I have. I wouldn’t say anything.
Let them stare. We can’t control how others behave.
Women try to steal my husband EVERY time I go anywhere with him. He’s very monogamous and they aren’t going to get anywhere.
I mean, I get it. I know what he looks like. Stare all you want, he’s a sight for sore eyes <3 the dancing to get attention would be awkward, but it wouldn’t annoy me
I love it. I find it entertaining and my husband is so bad at noticing. I remember once we were at this party he was sitting on the couch and I was standing across the room, some drunk girl came over and tried to sit on him, he stood up so fast and she fell off him onto the floor and then got all pissed off hahaha it was such an instinct for him I loved it xD he’s kinda repulsed by that excessively sexual attention seeking behaviour, more into getting to know a girl, so I imagine trying to come into him too strong wouldn’t work out
I wouldn’t say anything. I would only say something if he or her were dancing together or flirting. If someone else is looking at him he can’t control it. If he’s checking someone out then that’s a different story.
I think it’s kinda funny. One time a super drunk girl at a concert told me that she thinks the guy near me (my bf) is interested in her cause he was looking in our direction. I told her she should go talk to him lol (I told her I was fuckin with her before she actually did)
I wouldn’t even notice. I’d be too busy looking at him too lol. If I did happen to notice, it wouldn’t bother me. Neither of us are the jealous type. I’ve been hit on in front of him and he knows nothing will come from it. I am friendly but will shut it down. The same goes for him with women. We are too in awe over each other when we go places. In our own little world. Also I love when people admire his beauty the guy is hot!
I dont care as long as he doesnt entertain it.
Ignore them even if it’s difficult. Your partner should do the same. They’ll get the hint and bother someone else. This woman was doing this in your presence? 🥲
I love my husband so much, and I’m very attracted to him, but… he’s not conventionally attractive. So I’d probably be a little suspicious if the woman had never met him and acted this way.
I’d probably just laugh at her and make fun of her to my husband.
I literally do not care. If my fella could be that easily swayed I wouldn’t be with him.
I’m not bothered.
My husband is a pretty good looking dude, still has a six pack in his 40s and gets a lot of looks at the pool in the summer.
There’s nothing I could do about it, even if I was bothered.
Give her ✨a show✨ lol. But I think my boyfriend is a cutie so it makes sense people would look at him. But he only has eyes for me so ¯_(ツ)_/¯
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Well sometimes I stare at him too, I think he’s rather nice to look at. But otherwise I don’t care, I’m not with him because he’s attractive and vice versa (that’s a bonus).
When I was younger I would have felt pissed and super jealous. Now, 8 years into the relationship, I would point it out to him and have a good laugh about it. Maybe even gas him up, tell him that I think she found him attractive.
I have grown quite a bit and I feel very secure in my relationship.
I don’t get insecure about that type of stuff, and have done a couple of short lived open relationships. So as long as I’m not feeling neglected in the relationship, I don’t mind.
The last guy I dated was pretty monogamous though so the couple of times it happened to him, he was like “Look, I’m not doing anything except existing,” which I thought was funny. My response to him was always “I don’t mind sharing, if that’s what you want”
He’s am attractive man. I have to accept that so it really doesn’t make a difference to me, if I were being honest.
I wouldn’t say anything, I’d just feel super bad secondhand embarrassment.
They can have him, they’ll be sending him back after hour four of him ranting about streetlights.
If you don’t trust him then I’d be worried
Nya-nya nee boo boo.
I’m on with women talking to him and staring at him but I’m not ok with them being touchy or flirty. At the end of the day he only has eyes for me so no big deal. Unless they touch then I’m going the Beth Dutton route.
I know he’s cute, but I’d tell her off because her attempts to seduce him are equal to sexual harassment and I’m not okay with other people making my partner feel uncomfortable. If a guy were to do that to me, I’d love it if my husband had my back, too.
Personally, I would challenge all parties to a staring contest. 🤷♂️
I find that it’s more common for men to look at other women more. But when it’s women, I honestly think that I’m at a point in my life where I’m too tired to bother. Anyone that looks at my significant other, I try to just take it as a compliment. Too many years wasted on negativity and insecurities. Meaningless fights that don’t really change human nature.
Doesn’t really bother me, it’s not like I don’t trust my husband and he’s often oblivious anyway 😂 we had a good laugh once when a woman flirted with my husband after he helped her out during a river float (told him there was “plenty of room” for the two of them on her float lol) and he shot her down without really understanding what happened. Our guy friend and I, who were watching the interaction, had to explain her intentions 😂
Recently my husband was working a bouncer shift at my sisters bar and I decided to go hang out that night because I never get to go out.
Partly was in the bar drinking and vibing. The other I was just hanging out with the hubs outside.
At one point I go out from inside and he says ” I was gonna ask you to come out here, one of those girls just purposely dropped something in front of me, turned her back to me and bent over slowly, when she stood up she said “I thought you deserved that””
Initially I had some anger and wanted to sit and wait for her to come out and kiss him in front of her.
He said no because he’s working and didn’t want to look bad on my sister.
She eventually came out and I could see she was way younger than us. Like freshly 21. And wasted. So I let it go.
I’ve told him many times if a girl can take him, she can have him.
proud!!!
Amused and a bit proud.
He’s very handsome and looks way better than me, and I feel good knowing he’s choosing me each and every day.
The amusement is because I know he’s not noticing their stares, as he’s not good at taking up such vibes.
One time in Vegas there was a group of girls that kind of surrounded my SO and were kinda touchy. We were in pirate costumes and his hair was down, so they were all over him touching his hair and all. I was getting us drinks from the bar, pretty drunk already. When I came back, drinks in my hands, and saw them all surrounding him I just blurted out, “Isn’t he hot?!”.
They all looked at me and scattered real quick. My SO and I just looked at each other for a second. I was like, wtf? Where’d they go? He was relieved, lol. They were making him feel uncomfortable.
I gave him his drink and proceeded to complain that the bartender was cutting me off and that our drinks were probably just cranberry juice at that point.
IMO, anyone can look at and admire attractive people as long as it’s done respectfully. Like, no touchy… Unless invited to.
Nah! I don’t care. As long as his eyes are on me.
When we are out and this happens we just laugh it off. My husband is a good looking guy and I’m proud of him.
The only time it has gotten a little uncomfortable is when we have repeat events and the same women approach him when they think I’m not around. This has happened at events where we see the same parents over and over (sports, school, neighborhood get togethers). It’s my husband though who gets irritated and politely stays away from them. He had a past relationship with someone who cheated and is disgusted by these moms who try and chat him up when their husbands aren’t nearby.
I would point it out to my partner like “Ooooooh she wantssss youuuu” and we would laugh, lol. i like to boost his confidence.
I know he’s a looker. They’re just seeing part of what I see.
If she was very actively trying to get his attention then I would have a word.
I’d laugh.
He would say something highly inappropriate to her.
We’d laugh.
I stood there like a grinning idiot while she just chatted away with him about being from the same city he lived most of his life in.
She kept trying to keep the conversation rolling with flirty bullshit, and he (finally) figured out what was up, so he walked over to me, grabbed me by the hips and kissed me as hard as he could.
She mumbled something about “going back inside and getting ignored, as usual” and then we both went back into the bar where his friend’s band was playing, laughing about the incident but also fairly weirded out by it.
It would be great! I’d get eye contact, smile, nod in agreement, and kiss him with pride.
I used to love that. Everyone was looking at my man.
I didn’t like it when he stared back, lol.
what is there to say to the woman? lol it wouldn’t be a shocker to me that someone is attracted to my attractive partner. & i wouldn’t perceive that as a threat to me nor my relationship. Saying sumn is unnecessary and gives insecure energy
I just smile at them because I know he’s coming home with me
I’d probably tell my husband he’s being eye fucked by said girl, and we’d both watch to see what she does next. I wouldn’t blame her – my husband is fiiine
I don’t care. If anything I’m happy that’s he’s so hot lol
If he notices, or if a woman is actually flirting with him, I just let him enjoy the attention. I mean, I married him so it would be kinda wild to be upset if other people also found him attractive! Honestly though, I don’t think he would even notice 😂
I’m absolutely fucking blind. There were at least two attempts to steal my bf from me from what I know, and each time I learnt about it from other people.
I’m proud I have a nice looking man!
I mean, look don’t touch?
If like hard core staring/trying to intentionally get his attn to be arrogant to me, then I’d probably say something to my partner about like hey, can you ask her to stop pls? It’s making me uncomfortable and Ik for a fact it’d be making him uncomfortable 😂
Rabid!
Idk really yet, I feel like I would think I got a catch honestly. I also dont think anyone can take him from me and if they are able to I do not want him. I lose all attraction is he is disloyal.
I would point them out (inconspicuously) and boost his ego. He deserves to feel as beautiful as I see him.
Unfortunately I hate it
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Probably just act like we were unicorn hunters. Nothing repulses women so quickly.
I love that for him. As long as he isn’t feeling uncomfortable or harassed, I don’t mind others appreciating him at all. Our boundaries are firmly set and he is aware that if she can take him she can have him.
I feel proud. I obviously made a great choice.
Lightly bully my husband about his ‘girlfriend’ for the rest of the week
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I don’t notice it if it happens. Honestly won’t care if it does. He’s still mine. You can look but you can’t touch.
Well, he’s hot, so I don’t blame her
I’ve noticed it but he’s always too busy having fun with me to care so I take it as a compliment. My man is fine and other women think so but at the end of the day he’s mine and comes home to me every night😂🤷♀️
“Heheh yeeee he is good to look at isn’t he?” Idk to me my man is THE handsomest guy in the whole world so it makes sense anyone else would take a peak at him. Hes also very tall so he gets a lot of “jesus that guy is HUGE” stares
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I’d just laugh and go on about my night. My husband is as loyal as they come and he’s fine at that 😍
I think “mmmhmm, isn’t he dreamy?”
I don’t notice and neither does he. Lol he doesn’t like dancing either.
I call her his girlfriend and make fun of him the whole night lol. Oh look your girlfriend is staring at you again
Jealousy is about lack of self-esteem. I don’t have a problem with him looking at other women or if other women or men look at him. We have been together for 18 years the most amazing man. the love of my Life. In the early days I would point out pretty things😜 but I’m secure in myself. He is a 7 with a10 personality.
I’m probably the same.
Stare all you want, you’re getting cucked in real-time
I love it 🤷🏻♀️ my partners hot and I like when other women look at him while knowing he’s so down bad for me lol. That man literally kisses the ground I walk on when I tell him to. A little flirty talk is not gonna turn that man’s head.
Hahaha I’d love it honestly
I’d stare at her and smile creepily.
Can’t blame them. He’s a good looking man. I am punching way above my weight class.
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I don’t really care, stare away, it’s not going to make any difference lol
glorious but it never has happened even twice
Wouldn’t bother me. It would only bother me if she was encroaching on his physical space and making him uncomfortable. In which case I’ll get really mean really quick.
It turns me on. If other women aren’t drooling over my man, then he’s not my man 😋
Turned on. Then I mention it to him (because he’s pretty clueless about it), he gets kind of puffed up and proud, which turns me on even more.
I have seen both sexes smile at my husband. I always tell my husband when I notice. He always says. No they are looking at us both.
I feel blessed that he is with me.
My husband is a DJ and over the last decade I’ve had to learn to just let it go. I trust my partner 150%, so It doesn’t matter if some girl is trying to eye fuck him, I know he’s coming home to me.
It’s really hard to get to that point of not giving a fuck, but it’s freeing once you do.
if i said something my gf would probably laugh at her with me, and purposely ignore her and shower me with attention like she usually does. god i love her
I don’t care. Last time we went to the gym together, we were working out separate and I saw this girl keep looking at him lol. I just told him that this girl was staring at him and thought it was funny. When girls check him out, I just think of it as a compliment.
Me n my bf would laugh together about the woman trying to get his attention.
I respond of course. I hug him from the side while smiling with eye contact. Dead stare. Then calmly lick the side of his face from chin to ear. Then wink. 😜
I have never noticed anything like that. If I did, I guess I would just think her behavior was inappropriate.
Amused. He looks sweet and innocent. He’s actually cleaned up, white collar, (pardon the term) paranoid trailer trash. He’s very proud of this fact that he teeters the line and can dupe most people.
Fuck is he pretty though.