How do you feel when you and a stranger flirtily smile at each other (at a coffee shop, bookstore etc) and they don’t approach you?
How do you feel when you and a stranger flirtily smile at each other (at a coffee shop, bookstore etc) and they don’t approach you?
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Like maybe I should approach them and not wait for them to make the first move if I like them.
I feel that smiling flirtily is easily imagined/misinterpreted and I was probably just being polite and don’t want to be bothered anyway.
I love love love what I call „what could have been“ scenarios. Basically this, exchanging smiles or winks or a short conversation, but no follow-up. It usually feeds my daydreams for weeks, I imagine scenarios where we spend the rest of our life together.
It feels like a compliment (something about me caught their eye) that‘s very genuine because it doesn‘t come with an expectation or reward.
Idk if it‘s common though, I‘m a particularly dreamy person and like living in my head more than most people.
Not all guys will approach. For MANY reasons… it’s always nice for us guys to get approached by a woman once in a while.
Just tell yourself, “don’t worry, I’ll see him again” even if you think you won’t there may be a slight chance. Then you can call it fate or whatever and approach him.
I usually tell myself this if I can’t work up the courage to approach.. by the 2nd or third time seeing her, ill approach, chat for a bit, then ask her out on the spot.
It all depends.
I don’t give it any further thought, really. If they’d been interested enough – or if they didn’t have something else going on that prevented them – they would have approached. If I had been interested enough (and single), I might have approached. For whatever combination of reasons, neither of us did. Shrug.
Edit: Truth told, I dislike cold approaches anyway, so I probably wouldn’t have been reciprocating flirtatious looks or anything in the first place, and certainly wouldn’t have said yes to a date or anything if they had approached.
I usually take it as a compliment, as long as it’s not creepy!
Releived 😅 Also I was probably not flirting I was just being awkward. I only flirt with people I’m already in a relationship with.