I see people expressing how their person treats them right. Or people having good relationships where the guys adores them. Like how?
How do you find people to love you genuinely?
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I see people expressing how their person treats them right. Or people having good relationships where the guys adores them. Like how?
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I freaken wish I knew
Always be your genuine self and always keep an eye out for red flags.
I think when someone genuinely loves you, you can see it through the effort they make, whether it’s the time they give you, the way they try to build the relationship, or how they face challenges with you instead of running away. That’s usually how I can tell if someone truly loves me. But yeah idk.
You have to pick a person who wants to do that anyway, no matter who they are with. Otherwise it will always be just temporary. So look for someone who can sustain long term friendships and other kinds of relationships. Who is strong and principled and has an idea of how they want to be in the world and towards other people genereally, and then who has a strong vision of how they want to be in a partnership. Once you’ve found that person then they’re bound to treat you right.
After a particularly awful break up, I had therapy and my therapist helped me see I was constantly repeating patterns of behaviour. These always ended up in similar crappy outcomes. Once I’d worked on myself and started to understand the WHY I did that, it helped me break the cycle. So in answer to your question, I think start with “you” rather than “them”. I’m not suggesting for one minute you are a bad person or have issues, but understanding yourself helps you become stronger in your relationships. Also, remember, everyone whoever they are and however they paint their relationships, goes through shitty bits so don’t think that it’s all rosy in the garden all the time for them.
you dont find, you wait till they come for you tbh. then you will know
You don’t. They just come also good relationships are made by TWO who actually have self awareness. Capable of forgiving, learning, and growing.
First learn to love yourself and to like your life how it is, without a partner.
Then dont settle for less than genuin love. If it doesnt feel right, it is not right. And if you’re stable and happy with yourself, you will notice that way more easily and have the strength to go and keep looking for your person.