She used to spend so much without me realising. I was worried about money going into my divorce but I now have so much more than before
How do you find your disposable income since divorce?
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She used to spend so much without me realising. I was worried about money going into my divorce but I now have so much more than before
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Have you considered putting it into retirement savings or into stocks?
I was separated for a bit. Was so much easier man.
I guess since it’s my wallet she has less restraint.
I am much better off financially since divorce. And disposable income is a lot more enjoyable to spend now.
Fishing trips galore, lol.
Your free, spend a couple months spending it on stuff for you
Skyrocketing compared to marriage.
My wife was in charge of the finances during our entire marriage and constantly had me believing that we were on the verge of going broke, and that I needed to work more/harder to keep us afloat as she ran her “business” that resembled a hobby more than a job.
Her constant expenditures on herself we sold to me as “using the last of the money her grandma left her”
I was stupid as fuck and trusting beyond all sense. When we divorced I got half of her credit card debt and found out where her purchases had been coming from.
Once I was divorced… I was *astonished* how much money I had. It just poured in and piled up. I remember being really stressed about spending $39.00 on an Ikea bookcase for my new place. Took me a few months to get used to the idea of not just eating Cajun beans and rice for most meals.
She did a number on me.
But yeah, the short answer to your question is I have *tons* of money now.
Mine is not as good. But, I bought her out of our home, took on more debt, mortgage went up… I’m in CA, so even if I end up having to sell, it’s been a great investment. It’s appreciated since the divorce a good bit.
But, day to day, things are a bit tight with that big asset weighing me down.
Even with giving her the house, and 50% of my paycheck as alimony. I’m much better off financially.
when my ex left, It was unnerving, somewhat terrifying, that I was now solely financially responsible for my house and to pay household bills. After a couple of months it sort of dawned on me that I was always financially and physically responsible for the house, all my utility bills dropped by a lot(no more daily 20-30 minute showers, I can keep the house a little colder in the winter, and less electricity usage), and I was saving so much more money being single only having to feed and entertain myself. Basically, I came out ahead financially because I didn’t have the financial burden of a partner. Lol
The best part is I can save a lot of money a month without being put down as “too frugal.”
Side hustle that pays cash.
I make 3x as much, my cost of living is half, and I no longer have her blowing money left and right, and my second wife makes way more than I do…
Divorce was expensive because it was worth it.
I stopped eating out and learned to cook simple and quick meals.
Totally the same here. After divorce I had more discretionary income per month than before with double the income. She spent a shit ton on makeup, clothes, eating out, and other stuff like hair and nails. We barely took one vacation per year. Now, I’m taking 3-4 vacations per year, and have flown move in the 4 years post divorce than the 20 years combined before that. While saving more in my 401k on top of it. Living my best life.
It’s been awhile since my divorce but I had the same reaction. The first couple of months were tough, because of child support and alimony. But once I got that programmed in and was used to it, life got so much easier and I was able to save more that we had ever been able to save together.
Well, I trusted her completely and in many ways I wasn’t wrong to do that, but it wasn’t until we split that I realized she was a ‘My money is my money, your money is our money’ type. That first month was eye opening. I wasn’t exactly flush with cash, but I didn’t have to donate plasma to fill my gas tank anymore either.
Holy shit it’s so much more per month without nonsense Amazon packages being delivered every day, dinners and drinks, and whatever other useless garbage she used to spend it on. Once my schooling is paid off, I’ll be debt free and much more comfortable.
Check your divorce lawyer’s bank account.