You know, I found someone in the strangest way. We communicated on Discord to set-up a group meet up to do a Pokémon GO raid. Sometimes you can find people in bizarre ways. Don’t give up!
Have you tried speed dating or singles chats? Etc?
Not specifically FOR dating but just talking with other people that are unattached.
Then go do it, and when you find someone you want to date in that space, don’t chicken out and start getting to know them. Get a number, not a Snapchat or social media handle.
It’s not guaranteed everything will open up to you right away, but if you like pottery for example, and visit a pottery club or whatever once a week, see someone you wanna date, there’s already so much to talk about, because you both like pottery. There’s a foundation that instantly lessens that barrier of awkwardness from either randomly approaching the pretty girl on the street or in the club when you’re all covered in sweat and smell like liquor.
Join a club board games, running, time left, language exchange, volleyball. Meet new people and expand your circle. Ask for referrals from your friends and the new people you meet
If you are not part of a hobby group, that can be a good place to start. They can lead to larger events like cons with many single people. Basically networking it the old fashioned way. Either you will find someone and ask them out, or your good reputation will lead you to being recommended to single friends of your friends. Just takes a lot of time and patience.
I’m getting myself ready to try and re-enter the dating scene. It’s been 20 years since I asked someone out, and that was in HS, and she is now my wife (ENM).
Shit does not look like it’s fun anymore, but I wish you luck.
Personally i don’t. I let the women make the first move even if it’s a subtle move then i may shoot my shot but I’ve also seen women ruin innocent lifes with barely a slap on the wrist so i treat them like they could possibly be dangerous.
Engage in light conversation with someone if there’s an opportunity, gauge their response and willingness to chat, are they just being polite and focusing on what they’re doing aka sending signals to leave em alone, or are they engaging back.
If it’s the latter, take the shot.
Clubs and the apps serve their purpose, but unlikely to meet the one there. They’re great for finding someone for the evening and to flirt, but I wouldn’t waste much time there.
If legit looking to take someone out on a date you matched with through an app, make it clear early on, because it’s like nearly impossible to decide if you actually like someone just texting back and forth. You can get a sense for their vibe (or the one they’re trying to put forward at least), but until sit down and have a conversation, it’s just useless flirting into the void.
Don’t gotta give specifics, but what range you fall under – 18-24, 25-30, 30-40, 40+?
The answer for most that are nearing that 30 mark or above, it’s through networking and setups from others you already know, or from asking someone out you know in some professional capacity – new girl in accounting, buyers/vendors etc..
Forgot when and where I saw this initially so I’m sure it’s varied a bit since – but something staggering like ~65% of adult relationships are formed through work.
The number was significantly higher for ones first relationship post-school days love (sorry Trent, thanks for the fun & keeping me sane during my dissertation or whatever, but byeee), and those fresh out a divorce.
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I hate the clubs and dating apps aren’t doing shit for me. What do I do?
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Lower your standards
Date a fat chick
Have someone set you up. Having wasted years trying to meet someone on my own, I met my wife through a mutual friend.
Just got out a 7 year relationship ship so ill take advice as well lol
Get a hobby and meet people. Try making friends and relationships will come naturally.
Hobbies are great because you’re guaranteed to have one thing in common.
I’d take you on a date buddy. Strictly platonic. Unless you pay.
I don’t…🤷🏻♂️
You know, I found someone in the strangest way. We communicated on Discord to set-up a group meet up to do a Pokémon GO raid. Sometimes you can find people in bizarre ways. Don’t give up!
Have you tried speed dating or singles chats? Etc?
Not specifically FOR dating but just talking with other people that are unattached.
Just die alone tbh. or AI girlfriend haha
You can date me for $120/ hour.
What do you like to do?
Then go do it, and when you find someone you want to date in that space, don’t chicken out and start getting to know them. Get a number, not a Snapchat or social media handle.
It’s not guaranteed everything will open up to you right away, but if you like pottery for example, and visit a pottery club or whatever once a week, see someone you wanna date, there’s already so much to talk about, because you both like pottery. There’s a foundation that instantly lessens that barrier of awkwardness from either randomly approaching the pretty girl on the street or in the club when you’re all covered in sweat and smell like liquor.
Join a club board games, running, time left, language exchange, volleyball. Meet new people and expand your circle. Ask for referrals from your friends and the new people you meet
If you are not part of a hobby group, that can be a good place to start. They can lead to larger events like cons with many single people. Basically networking it the old fashioned way. Either you will find someone and ask them out, or your good reputation will lead you to being recommended to single friends of your friends. Just takes a lot of time and patience.
I’m getting myself ready to try and re-enter the dating scene. It’s been 20 years since I asked someone out, and that was in HS, and she is now my wife (ENM).
Shit does not look like it’s fun anymore, but I wish you luck.
I am weird and approach in public. I am really respectful, always give them an out, and have yet to really have anyone freak out on me.
I find my weird girls on FET but those are generally for fun.
Personally i don’t. I let the women make the first move even if it’s a subtle move then i may shoot my shot but I’ve also seen women ruin innocent lifes with barely a slap on the wrist so i treat them like they could possibly be dangerous.
Tinder
Online dating
Or when your friend introduces you to their friend
I went on a date via referral 😂, It was a very Hilarious moment but was fun
You throw a hot dog down a hallway
Place a sign on groin that reads “behind this sign lies your wildest dreams”
My friends don’t have any single friends so I’m stuck in the apps wasteland. Hint: if you’re not physically attractive, it doesn’t work aka me
Engage in light conversation with someone if there’s an opportunity, gauge their response and willingness to chat, are they just being polite and focusing on what they’re doing aka sending signals to leave em alone, or are they engaging back.
If it’s the latter, take the shot.
Clubs and the apps serve their purpose, but unlikely to meet the one there. They’re great for finding someone for the evening and to flirt, but I wouldn’t waste much time there.
If legit looking to take someone out on a date you matched with through an app, make it clear early on, because it’s like nearly impossible to decide if you actually like someone just texting back and forth. You can get a sense for their vibe (or the one they’re trying to put forward at least), but until sit down and have a conversation, it’s just useless flirting into the void.
Don’t gotta give specifics, but what range you fall under – 18-24, 25-30, 30-40, 40+?
The answer for most that are nearing that 30 mark or above, it’s through networking and setups from others you already know, or from asking someone out you know in some professional capacity – new girl in accounting, buyers/vendors etc..
Forgot when and where I saw this initially so I’m sure it’s varied a bit since – but something staggering like ~65% of adult relationships are formed through work.
The number was significantly higher for ones first relationship post-school days love (sorry Trent, thanks for the fun & keeping me sane during my dissertation or whatever, but byeee), and those fresh out a divorce.