Edit to add – I made his dog that he’s obsessed with (blinded by this green flag) treats in a novelty ice cube tray one of my students gifted me before she moved, so I want that back. And left my sunglasses either in his kitchen or car. So I’m reaching out regardless just trying to figure out what and how to word it.
35 f dating a 33m for 3/4 weeks. After almost a month of weekly dates, daily communication, good morning texts, flirty/complimenting messages, IG reels and videos, planning future dates, him sharing a notes app note with me where he was compiling a list of all the things and places he said he wanted to do/go together – specifically asking me things I haven’t done and want to do in the near future, and two dates planned for this coming week – he evaporated over night and I haven’t heard from him in 3 days.
I reached out the last two times and his texts were short, cold and quick.
This has actually never happened to me in my two years of dating since my engagement ended. I’ve had many first dates and a few 1-3 month courtships, all of which end with either a text or phone call from me or the guy. And while never a pleasant thing to do, the closure is there and we move on.
How do you handle getting ghosted? Do you just stay silent, or send a closure text to call them out and tell them why it hurt you?