Me (F22) and my boyfriend (M25) are currently having an issue about me buying toys, specifically a dildo that resembles the actual d*ck. He is a bit insecure on his size.
When I tried sharing that I want to go from vibrator then a dildo now, he is kinda against with the idea of buying anything that is much bigger compared to his. How do I deal with this thinking? Can I help him in some way to work through his insecurity? I do reassure him, that’s why when I brought up that topic is I intentionally sent a link where it is much closer to his size, which I was planning to buy. But it felt off when he said that I first need his approval before I make a purchase, It’s not like I’m gonna use his money too, since I plan on buying it for myself as we are currently in a long distance relationship. Did what he said sound wrong or am I just overthinking. Please enlighten me 🥲
how do you handle your partners’ insecurity about sex toys?
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He shouldn’t be controlling what you buy with your money and what you use on your body. especially since you’re in a ldr, does he want you to be unsatisfied?? You are a grown woman you don’t need his approval to buy anything with your own money.
I mean as a guy, if your girl is buying a bigger dildo to satisfy herself I can see why it would hurt his ego and make him feel insufficient
… buy the toy and be single
If he can’t adapt then you need to date a man rather than a boy.
Let them hold/administer the toy mixed in with other activities.
He should be a part of the first usage as reassurance unfortunately his insecurities wont be swayed easily maybe make a clone a willy kit and play with that first then get a diffrent size
Ah, youth and insecurity. I was like this when young. Nowadays I’m the one getting them out so my partner can have the best time.
For some reason this makes her hornier.
Girl buy that sex toy. No it will not make you unsatisfied with him. Size really doesn’t matter after all, it’s how you use it. Also it’s your body, your money, he is not aloud to tell you what to do. I understand he’s insecure but it’s not your job to solve that, he needs to work through it.
Put them away after I use them. Lol