Hello. The situation is this: My fiancé is writing his BA thesis in industrial engineering – he was tasked with basically redesigning an entire product + write a scientific report on it. Now, the supervisors, it seems, had absolutely no idea what that entailed. It’s unclear wether he’ll be able to meet the deadline (3weeks left). I think he can, he’s a superhero when it comes to it. He sits in front of the computer working away at it from 7AM to 1AM. Every day since March. I can see how it’s affecting him, mentally and physically. Put dramatically, he’s falling apart. It hurts. I try to do all I can, look after the house, buy groceries etc and cheer him on whenerver I can. But I don’t think it’s enough. How can I help him? Is there a specific way to cheer him on and encourage him without pressuring him further? Take care of him? Give him strength? Make him believe in himself? What do you tell a man who is breaking under pressure?
How do you help a man slowly breaking under pressure?
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Hello. The situation is this: My fiancé is writing his BA thesis in industrial engineering – he was tasked with basically redesigning an entire product + write a scientific report on it. Now, the supervisors, it seems, had absolutely no idea what that entailed. It’s unclear wether he’ll be able to meet the deadline (3weeks left). I think he can, he’s a superhero when it comes to it. He sits in front of the computer working away at it from 7AM to 1AM. Every day since March. I can see how it’s affecting him, mentally and physically. Put dramatically, he’s falling apart. It hurts. I try to do all I can, look after the house, buy groceries etc and cheer him on whenerver I can. But I don’t think it’s enough. How can I help him? Is there a specific way to cheer him on and encourage him without pressuring him further? Take care of him? Give him strength? Make him believe in himself? What do you tell a man who is breaking under pressure?
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……….. He’s a man on a mission. I suggest dropping off washed cut up fruits and veggies on a plate next to him so his body and mind make it through.
I’m interested in the answer as well. The basic answer is that our society has accepted this type of toxic work environment and school environment. Once he makes it through this, I would recommend therapy. I would also recommend asking him if this is the type of life he’s ordinates ti live. And, is this the type of life you would like to live in. You have to take care of your own mental health as much as he does his own.
Emotional support blowjob while working?
He needs a break. It doesn’t have to be long but he needs to relax a bit.
If hes not eating, get him anything. Remind him to shower and sit under the water and just relax.
The things you are doing and the ways you are showing you care are amazing. Take a moment to recognise your thoughtfulness and contribution. I would then ask him if there is anything practically, emotionally or time wise that could help more. Then after this is finished there’s maybe a conversation to be had about doing these sorts of things in future, so they can be planned, avoid such an impact on both of you.
This might be hard to accept, but a thesis for a BA shouldn’t be taking that long to complete. Something is going wrong with his research or time management. It could be he’s reached a point where he just isn’t able to be productive. Has he enquired about getting an extension and also raised the issue of supervision with faculty?
I don’t respect industrial engineers. That’s just a me thing as an industrial maintenance. It’s just bad theory…. Problem I have is engineers get so well on paper they forget about certain flaws and issues with other systems or how the product runs in the line when they decide to make edit….
That’s kinda my biggest pet peeve with them.. It’s good on paper never good in real world… something is always over looked or not thought about till it’s standing in front of you.
That being said, I usually just on a weekend a time to myself usually on like a Friday night or Saturday… just give me a fried mozzarella sticks, wings, just absolutely junk food. And enough alcohol to clear my head and just leave me be. Don’t try to flirt or make me have to think. I mean leave me in an absent mind. I mean I’m giving the wall a 9 mile stare and not a thought is going through my head except maybe some good old times.
Usually gives my brain the reset I need to come at a fresh approach to deal with things.
Did this a lot in college and still do it when I bump into an issue on the line I’m arguing with older maintenance and young engineers who don’t know shit about why this can’t or can be the problem and to fix it we need a different approach especially when it’s a reoccurring issue.