I have been reading messages my husband sends to a female coworker. Some of them feel intimate or flirty, though he insists it’s just friendship.
Examples include:
- “Talking to you feels like drinking from a cool spring, but no matter how much I drink, I still end up feeling thirsty.”
- “I just want you to feel good.”
- “There will be heaps of opportunities for us to hang out together, I’m sure.”
- Referring to a work project as “a good excuse to hang out.”
- “Wishing we could watch Netflix together – maybe in another life.”
I feel hurt and betrayed, and I’m not sure how to process these emotions. How have others navigated situations where a partner’s messages with someone else felt too close?
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100% an emotional affair. I’m sorry. I navigate cheating by breaking up with them.
Oh they are emotionally connected. Navigating is calling out this affair and completely inappropriate relationship. Have him decide if it’s worth it to him to end your marriage, if not, he will need to work on repairing the relationship and earning your trust.
The first and last comment are really wierd to me,”maybe in another life” is not something you say to someone whos “just a friend”.
Now he probably hasnt cheated and i dont want to scare you,but this does feel like emotional cheating and your feelings are totally valid!
Maybe try talking to him about it again
Sounds like the same kind of thing my ex husband used to say to his work friend, along with secret nicknames. He swore they were just friends and I was jealous. He lives with her now.
Call your attorney, no sense at all in keeping that man in a relationship he clearly wishes he wasn’t in. Let him go be with her, you can and will find a better man. 🫂
In my opinion your husband is having an emotional affair and it is heading towards physical soon, I would deal with it by serving the divorce papers
Giiiiiirl, nope, these are not “friendly” messages. The first one and the last one are inexusable.
Also I think that the first one is double entendre and can be interpreted as rather seggsual.
EDIT: There is definitely at least an emotional affair.
this is out of context but it is not something you write to a platonic coworker/friend
Yep that’s crossed a line
uh oh, he’s fucked. another bloke rumbled.
There is zero chance he’s not at the very least in an emotional affair. He cannot insist this is ‘just friendship’. For all we know it is on her part, but he’s sure trying awful hard. And who knows how he’s acting and treating her in person. He’s this bold over text when you can see it, what’s he doing when you can’t?
Your husband is clearly fishing.
He is cheating on you so call a lawyer and file for divorce. He is betraying you, even if its emotional cheating atm he will end up sleeping with her. He is an idiot messing with a coworker never ends well.
Are they robots? Who freaking texts like this?
He literally said he was thirsty for her and wished they could Netflix and chill.
He’s having an emotional affair with his coworker and I’m sure it will soon become a physical one during one of their ‘hang outs’.
You process these emotions by feeling them and holding him accountable for cheating, preferably by divorcing his ass.
That’s a whole ass emotional affair and you better either stop it now or kick him to the curb. But I’m petty and I’d report them to HR with screenshots.
This is an emotional affair and if the opportunity presented itself he would likely follow through with physical intimacy.
Up to you if you wanna get in front of a couples counselor and figure out why this is happening. But if this is someone he regularly works closely with, it will be very hard to trust him going forward. Only you know what’s right for you.
That’s 100% emotional cheating. No spouse or committed partner should be saying those things to anyone who isn’t you. It depends on if you and your husband are willing to work through things and go to counseling and moving past this. Ultimately up to you and some people stay together and some don’t
yikes. emotional affair. updateme