Long story short. I met this guy online a week ago. 7 days. After 3 days of talking he’s already saying that he misses me and that he doesn’t want me talking to anyone else. Now at day 7, he’s saying he adores me and is calling all these pet names. I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed.
The last guy I spoke to before him was saying similar things on a bit of a longer timeline (2 weeks). He told his friends about me after 2 days of talking, saying he’s done dating. A week later he was “claiming me” and didn’t want me seeing anyone else. Days after that he was telling everyone (even people he didn’t know) we were dating. Showing (and sending) my pictures to everyone. I told him this was moving to fast for me and that we barely knew each other. He told me I was overreacting and that this is how quickly normal relationships progress. He was 14 years older than me, so he liked to say he was more experienced and more familiar with how things worked.
Am I overreacting? Do things usually move this fast? I’m not experienced in dating (I’m 30 and only had one boyfriend).
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Are you overreacting – no
Do things usually move this fast – no
Trust your instincts. If you feel overwhelmed, back away or slow down.
“He doesn’t want me talking to anyone else” – ridiculous. Bad behavior on his part. He should not be trying to control you.
Don’t let clingy guys pressure you into forced, fast online dependency… You are free to stop talking to him
Waaaay too fast! One week isn’t enough time to be sure you even really like someone, never mind start making serious commitments!
Trust yourself. If it feels too fast for you, then it IS too fast. Any guy who is telling you NOT to trust yourself is bad news. Especially after a week. I’d drop the guy and block him for safety.
You trust your gut. If it makes you uncomfortable, it is too fast.
Every relationship is different. What works with one person will be different than what works with another. You can walk away at any time for any reason.
Honey, he’s waving a bunch of red flags in your face and calling it a bouquet. BEWARE of anyone who says he doesn’t want you talking to anyone else, that person is possessive and will turn abusive to keep control over you!
Stop contact. Tell him you’re ending it, and block him on everything.
It’s called love bombing. It’s a form of manipulation
pummmmmmp the breaks!!!!
you’re not overreacting or overthinking anything. set strong boundaries! trust your instincts. cut it off. that is too fast too toxic. you’re not property and if you don’t like pet names you shouldn’t be called them. you don’t deserve to feel this uncomfortable!!
Way too fast. When I was younger and before therapy, I would attach too fast. But I think he’s doing some narcissistic controlling behavior. I’d end it. There’s only pain in his future. You don’t need it in yours.
You know things are moving too fast when you feel like things are moving too fast. And you said you feel like he’s moving too fast. Trust your gut. That whole bit of not talking to anyone else is a red flag. He’s gaslighting you in a big way, and I just reread your post and saw the age difference. Run.