This sounds very stupid but I have very low experience in this field and don’t know what I’m doing/feeling. Please help with advice.
I basically made a new friend and we clicked so well and I look forward to our conversations all the time, and I pay so much attention to him (far more than others) and I honestly don’t know if I have a crush on him or not?
If he asks me out I would probably say yes, but I’m worried that my decision is driven by the fact that I’m just too excited to have someone I like talking to this much, and not actually wanting to start a relationship with him.
This happened to me before where I made a new friend and I got kinda obsessive and convinced myself I liked them, but later found out that I just liked having a bestie who’s nice and can have interesting conversations.
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There are far worse reasons to start a relationship than enjoying a person’s company. I guess you should ask yourself, though, how you would feel if you were to lose him, which is a risk in romantic relationships. It’s a risk in platonic relationships too, but not as much.
If I want to touch him, or wish he would touch me, then for me it means I like him more as a friend. Sometimes it also takes time. Maybe initially you were interested in that other guy, but then the more time you spent with him the less you saw him as date material. Thats normal and happens. Sometimes the spark just goes away, sometimes it’s a slow burn and sometimes there is none at all.
Do you think he’s hot?
To be completely honest, what you described sounds like platonic infatuation (strong feeling towards someone that isn’t necessarily romantic).
It’s a good first step towards a fine relationship.
I’d personally wait a little more to let the feeling simmer a bit. Clarity comes with time, and you ought to be careful about those things.
How long have the two of you been hanging out together?
I wonder if the “new guy shine” is having an effect on your perception of the relationship. If y’all are new acquaintances, I would encourage you to hold off on labeling the nature of your feelings: your heart will let you know for certain soon enough.
This is a tough one. When hanging out with my boyfriend it’s very “good long-time friends” feeling. But then one of us takes off an article of clothing and it’s very “awwwww yeah!” feeling. Kind of the best of both worlds to be dating a close friend.
Do you ever look at this guy and think “mmm. Hot.”? If you are never feeling sexual attraction to him, a relationship is probably not in your future.