Mine are high and I don’t care. How I live my life also doesn’t help this situation.
I’ve come to terms with the fact I’m not meant to have friends. I’m meant to experience people and move on. I can always come to reddit or other forms to talk about certain interests.
I don’t really have expectations. I meet them where they are and adjust the level of our relationship accordingly. If they don’t add to my life in some way I don’t stay friends with them. That’s all.
Very close friends I know I can ask to pick me up during a crisis, and it’d be okay for me to feel upset if they don’t, because of all the times I’ve been there for them during their crises. I give them a lot of support, and I lean on them often too, so it doesn’t come as a shock to them when I ask for support.
For shallow friendships I just enjoy being around them and have nearly zero expectations of them. But then I don’t really go out of my way to be there for them anyway.
Also, some friendships I have for specific reasons, e.g. I have friends at the gym. I don’t expect them to be there for me in other areas of my life.
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Mine are high and I don’t care. How I live my life also doesn’t help this situation.
I’ve come to terms with the fact I’m not meant to have friends. I’m meant to experience people and move on. I can always come to reddit or other forms to talk about certain interests.
Expecting yourself from others is a hard game to play.
I don’t really have expectations. I meet them where they are and adjust the level of our relationship accordingly. If they don’t add to my life in some way I don’t stay friends with them. That’s all.
Depends on the closeness and type of friendship.
Very close friends I know I can ask to pick me up during a crisis, and it’d be okay for me to feel upset if they don’t, because of all the times I’ve been there for them during their crises. I give them a lot of support, and I lean on them often too, so it doesn’t come as a shock to them when I ask for support.
For shallow friendships I just enjoy being around them and have nearly zero expectations of them. But then I don’t really go out of my way to be there for them anyway.
Also, some friendships I have for specific reasons, e.g. I have friends at the gym. I don’t expect them to be there for me in other areas of my life.