There’s a girl I met during my internship 3 months ago who’s been on my mind a lot. I honestly can’t believe she’s even real. She’s smart, kind, down to earth, very naturally beautiful, and just carries herself with this calm confidence. She’s social but also reserved. She barely has 100 followers on Instagram, which was surprising to me.
We’ve been having lunch together almost every day, and I usually give her a ride home after work since she’s new to the city and doesn’t have a car yet. She’s so pleasant to talk to.
I’m thinking about asking her out once the internship ends. I’ve been holding off on saying anything because there’s a high chance we’ll both end up working here full-time after graduation in six months. I don’t want to create tension at work if it’s not mutual. My friend says it’s better to just keep in touch with her and ask her out if we work together.
I usually do great with women, but I’ve only dated white girls before, so I’m not sure if I’m her type either. Maybe I’m overthinking it. I can’t tell if she’s just being nice or into me, because she sometimes interacts like this with other interns in our group too.
What’s the best way to tell if someone’s into you without actually asking them out, especially when there’s a good chance you’ll be coworkers long-term?
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When she makes it very clear that she’s into me and I’m 99% sure I won’t be rejected or when she takes the shot herself.
Clarity. Maturity. Stability. Non neediness.
its always worth
I always take a shot if I think I can make it work. It’s worth it, even if she says no.
I miss every shot I dont make.
So its always worth it
What happens if she rejects you? You die? Your mom dies?
Just shoot your shot.
You feel this electricity
So what is the goal here? You want to take her on a date, get to know her better, or ask her to be your girlfriend?
I wouldn’t recommend dating a coworker. I’ve seen far too many people do it and it always creates a lot of tension and favoritism. Most work places even have rules against it. If you 2 don’t end up working there then go for it! Nothing to lose then.
I’ve dated a coworker before. We broke up and she quit but everything was pretty smooth.
Not putting my work over what could potentially be amazing relationship if that’s what’s important to me. It’s all risk, I would just try to enter it in a way where she feels totally comfortable before after and during when you make a “Move”
But also be confident. You’ll be alright go for it
Say hi and ask if she wants to go for a drink/coffee/sky dive. You’re not a mind-reader, bro. Neither are we.
Fuck it! Shoot your shot. It works, great! If not, move on!
If it’s top shelf and she’s buying, I’m in!