When the past doesn’t bother you anymore, if it ever did.
I was ready to be back in action after breaking up with my ex, but only because I was mentally breaking up with him overtime. I dumped him when the remaining emotions I had died from what he said.
However I wanted to enjoy my single life for abit and did that exactly before I met someone else by luck. I never searched for people. They just fell into my lap by emotional connections.
The surest sign from personal experience is when I’m actually satisfied with being alone and happy doing my own thing. And often that’s when potential relationships start to appear (also for me, friendships are the start to almost all romantic relationships)
I just got out of one. The only way i can see myself being ready again is if I meet a man that makes me feel true love again. I guess its more of a “who makes me feel comfortable to be vulnerable” than if im ready. I generally try to avoid romance or relationships because I just really value friendships and my alone time and not having added stress in my life.
When I finally love myself instead of relying on someone else to love me. And after that, if I finally want to be romantically involved with someone. For me personally, when I would question if I was ready or not, I wasn’t ready
When you are happy being single and alone. You won’t ever settle for less because you’re at peace and not going to let just anyone interrupt that. I’m at the point where I could be single for the rest of my life and be happy. Since I’ve spent the last six years establishing myself and doing things for me, I’m now reaching the point where I could date again and do it in a way that serves me
When the thought of committing to the person, doesn’t scares me or makes me anxious, but it gives me a sense of freedom and encouragement to be myself fully, while still enjoying his presence and him, as a person…. Not just the “idea” of him.
❤️❤️
There are a few things— mostly when you feel comfortable on your own and you see a potential as adding to your life rather than completing it. It’s also when you feel genuine happiness with your life and excited about the future, but that doesn’t mean you can’t feel lonely or desire a relationship. You also shouldn’t be focusing or comparing a new person to your ex, your mind will note difference, but if you’re consciously comparing a date to an ex then you’re not over them.
When it comes to actually dating or beginning a relationship it’s important to understand that you’ll never been 100% ready or 100% healed. The right person is going to trigger your insecurities and these days a lot of people see that as a red flag and leave. We are naturally insecure, the right person who cares about you (which takes time) will trigger you and your insecurities and give you the space and support to works through them. We are never going to be 100% healed and that’s ok because we’re human, but so often I’ve seen people that expect perfection and want everything from their relationship immediately. It takes time, love grows.
For me it was simple I started making future plans without trying to imagine who I’d be with. I was decorating my new apartment and realized I wasn’t leaving space for a hypothetical partner. I was just living my life and that’s exactly when I felt ready.
I have asked many a person, as someone with little experience
Consensus was: it just kinda happens. Noone schedules a specific date. Vibe on, see what happens
I was single for about five years up until recently, and the way I knew was when I was content by myself and went about my days feeling that way. I didn’t miss any exes or felt the need to find someone.
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When it sounds like a good idea
When the past doesn’t bother you anymore, if it ever did.
I was ready to be back in action after breaking up with my ex, but only because I was mentally breaking up with him overtime. I dumped him when the remaining emotions I had died from what he said.
However I wanted to enjoy my single life for abit and did that exactly before I met someone else by luck. I never searched for people. They just fell into my lap by emotional connections.
The surest sign from personal experience is when I’m actually satisfied with being alone and happy doing my own thing. And often that’s when potential relationships start to appear (also for me, friendships are the start to almost all romantic relationships)
When I know I’m not looking for a relationship as a distraction from my last. I let myself fully move on before starting anything new.
When you’re comfortable being your own emotional first responder.
I just got out of one. The only way i can see myself being ready again is if I meet a man that makes me feel true love again. I guess its more of a “who makes me feel comfortable to be vulnerable” than if im ready. I generally try to avoid romance or relationships because I just really value friendships and my alone time and not having added stress in my life.
You are usually unassuming, open to differences, but also standing on strong belief.
When I finally love myself instead of relying on someone else to love me. And after that, if I finally want to be romantically involved with someone. For me personally, when I would question if I was ready or not, I wasn’t ready
When you are happy being single and alone. You won’t ever settle for less because you’re at peace and not going to let just anyone interrupt that. I’m at the point where I could be single for the rest of my life and be happy. Since I’ve spent the last six years establishing myself and doing things for me, I’m now reaching the point where I could date again and do it in a way that serves me
You’re completely over any exes or interests you previously had
You know what you want out of life and have a good idea on what you want in a relationship
You have good communication
You can handle rejection
You want a relationship, you don’t feel you need a relationship
You don’t have an “I’ll take what I can get” mindset. You aren’t willing to compromise on the important things you want in a relationship
You’re able to feel happy for couples, or at least feel neutral. They don’t make you feel bitter
You can support yourself and you take good care of yourself
When the thought of committing to the person, doesn’t scares me or makes me anxious, but it gives me a sense of freedom and encouragement to be myself fully, while still enjoying his presence and him, as a person…. Not just the “idea” of him.
❤️❤️
There are a few things— mostly when you feel comfortable on your own and you see a potential as adding to your life rather than completing it. It’s also when you feel genuine happiness with your life and excited about the future, but that doesn’t mean you can’t feel lonely or desire a relationship. You also shouldn’t be focusing or comparing a new person to your ex, your mind will note difference, but if you’re consciously comparing a date to an ex then you’re not over them.
When it comes to actually dating or beginning a relationship it’s important to understand that you’ll never been 100% ready or 100% healed. The right person is going to trigger your insecurities and these days a lot of people see that as a red flag and leave. We are naturally insecure, the right person who cares about you (which takes time) will trigger you and your insecurities and give you the space and support to works through them. We are never going to be 100% healed and that’s ok because we’re human, but so often I’ve seen people that expect perfection and want everything from their relationship immediately. It takes time, love grows.
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You know you’re ready when you feel happy and whole on your own first. Then, you’re open to sharing that happiness with someone else. 💖
For me it was simple I started making future plans without trying to imagine who I’d be with. I was decorating my new apartment and realized I wasn’t leaving space for a hypothetical partner. I was just living my life and that’s exactly when I felt ready.
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I wish more people would ask themselves this question instead of hurting others
When being alone feels peaceful, not lonely and you’re not looking for someone to fix you, just to grow with you
I have asked many a person, as someone with little experience
Consensus was: it just kinda happens. Noone schedules a specific date. Vibe on, see what happens
Tbh I don’t really know.
I just like to enjoy my time being me and focusing on me.
I don’t really go out searching for love.
If it finds me, it finds me.
You just feel it
I was single for about five years up until recently, and the way I knew was when I was content by myself and went about my days feeling that way. I didn’t miss any exes or felt the need to find someone.
When I feel comfortable and free alone with myself