How do you like to be (non-sexually) cuddled by your partner?

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Maybe you’re tired, just woke up, already had sex, or are just want some PG-rated cuddles from your partner for whatever reason (or for no reason at all). How do you like it?

Do you want to literally be in your partner’s arms, or do you want to lay on their chest? Do you rest your head on your partner’s shoulders as little spoon, or do you prefer a little space? Where do you want your partner’s hands? Everyone’s different, and there are no wrong answers.

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  1. moverene1914 Avatar

    It would’ve been nice, but both long-term partners. I had always turned a hug or a cuddle into something sexual. It was super annoying.

  2. Miss_Sensational Avatar

    I love being the little spoon. His arm holding me tight and my butt arched back to him. It feels like a hug from behind. Ugh all the feels ❤️

  3. ji-julian Avatar

    I tell him to hold me like a dog

    Which means for him to lay on his back and spread his legs, let me get settled between them, then i lay back onto his chest. Sometimes he’ll hold me under my arms and they stick out all stiff like dogs’ do so, that’s why i describe it like that lol

    It is absolute heaven

  4. ZetaWMo4 Avatar

    My husband wraps his arms and legs around me like a body pillow and I love it.

  5. Individualchaotin Avatar

    Anything goes. I’m laying on him, him laying on me, him being the big spoon, me trying to be the big spoon, …

  6. strawberryk24 Avatar

    Little spoon or tucked into their armpit!

  7. bitter_sweet_69 Avatar

    spooning!

    she’s a bit taller than me, so i’m always her little spoon. it makes me feel so comfortable, safe in her arms, and loved.

  8. ManagementOk8213 Avatar

    Love being big spoon…sometimes leg over him. I like to pull him in close, kiss him between the shoulder blades and tell him I love him 🙂

  9. Babygall99 Avatar

    He like to be upright and likes to have a pillow under his arm and next to him. I love laying my head on his lap while he watches tv. If I lay on my back I get to pet his beard. If I’m on my side I will watch the tv or be on my phone. If he is laying down, I like to scooch between his legs and lay my head on his chest. My peace and my happy place

  10. Other-Fan-1004 Avatar

    My favorite is when we’re on the couch and he just wraps his arm around me and pulls me in. Or just casually throwing an arm over me in bed. 🥹 makes me so happy.

  11. Frenchitwist Avatar

    I looooove being big spoon. Especially when the alarm has just gone off in the morning and I use the snooze to roll over and put my partner over to me like a pillow I’m hugging.

    What makes it better is that I’m a short gal tall men seem to really like (???) so I’m always more of a backpack than a big spoon lol

  12. Goldy42268 Avatar

    I love being cuddled up to my partner, both of us on our sides facing each other but our bodies curled up to each other, last time we did this I fell asleep in minutes (without even trying to sleep)

  13. Munchkin531 Avatar

    It varies. Sometimes I’m little spoon (5’0) which is comforting because he’s 6’5. Other times I like to lay on his chest and hear his heartbeat. My husband even lays across me somedays and I pet his hair. If I’m really upset over something I like big hugs with his arms wrapped around me.

  14. THEsuziesunshine Avatar

    Starfished right on top lol

  15. AwardIll4648 Avatar

    I MISS CUDDLING W MY MANNNN

  16. Acesteria Avatar

    I LOVE when my husband lays on me. With him between my legs and my legs around him, his head in my chest or stomach. It’s my absolute FAVORITE. I have no idea but it’s so intimate and comfy.

  17. eatshitake Avatar

    A cuddle is a cuddle, I don’t mind what form it takes.

  18. Bebe_Bleau Avatar

    I like variety

  19. Highway-Born Avatar

    I like being the big spoon

  20. SnookerandWhiskey Avatar

    I love being cuddled while we do normal things, like cooking and a back hug, head on my shoulders, having a conversation while I chop something. Or him wrapping me in his jacket when I am cold outside. I do like hugs, in general, but I love the ones where I am being hugged, rather than us hugging each other, if that makes sense, like my hands and forehead are on his chest, his arms wrapped around. Or lying down, head on his chest, am wrapped around me.

  21. SevenCorgiSocks Avatar

    My boyfriend says that I’m like a space heater when I sleep – so when our alarms start ringing, we’re usually not next to each other in bed.
    One of my favorite things that he does is silence that first alarm of his and, in his semi-conscious, he pulls me into him. <3

    Usually, he’ll have one arm underneath my neck and pillow and the other wrapped around my torso just under my chest. It’s the intentionality of it when you’re not fully aware of your actions (partially asleep) that gets me.

  22. dsrklblue Avatar

    I love when we completely hug each other. I love any hug, but especially when we’re lying down and I hug him from his neck and he hugs me from my stomach and we’re kind of like clinging to each other

  23. Main-Ladder-5663 Avatar

    I like making him my little spoon even if he’s a foot taller than me lol or having him lay his head on my chest while he caresses my stomach. Orrrrrr I’ll lay my head on his chest and throw my leg over his lap and my arm over his abdomen to lay snug against him.

  24. Important-Okra2018 Avatar

    Lay on his chest while he rubs my back

  25. Whatthefrick1 Avatar

    I wanna be bear hugged. I like to lay on his chest but my favorite is when he spoons me and wraps his top leg around mine and imprisons me. I feel so safe and warm 😭

  26. Street_Tacos__ Avatar

    “Like a baby”

    Basically just being cradled

  27. zombifications Avatar

    I have issues with affection so I prefer not to cuddle.

  28. six_ravens Avatar

    He’ll big spoon cuddle me and I’ll curl up in front while he puts his arm under my pillow and we get comfortable to make sure we both can see the TV

  29. Xallia_Yevatell Avatar

    Like spooning, but we’re both facing each other. With my face in his chest and arms and legs wrapped around me.

  30. inkcapmushroom Avatar

    I love being little spoon and them having an arm around me pulling me against them, It makes me feel safe.