An example: the other day, FIL asked me in a self-service restaurant: are you and SO always eating such (big) portions? Even though he was referring to both of us, he only directed the question to me, so I guess the problem was my eating(??). I ignored him at first, but he repeated himself. I’m US size 6, and my SO and his family are all quite skinny. I want people to know it’s none of their business, but I don’t want to be rude.
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“are you always so curious about what others are consuming?”
I give the tight smile and say something dry back 😂 I competed in bodybuilding 4 years ago and still very much so eat the same way, and my FIL makes comments on my diet by choice all the time. They’re from Mississippi and eat everything fried which kills me inside, so I just give the tight smile and say I enjoy feeling healthy 🤷🏻♀️😂
What exactly do you mean by that? No, really, it was such a strange thing to say! Yes, I do want to know. Etc etc. Demand they explain their weird, rude behaviour. Embarrass them back into their lane.
FIL didn’t worry about being rude to you did he? My FIL was rude and a snap back was helpful. I didn’t know this at first, I was a newlywed and too polite for my own comfort. He improved when he knew I would clap back.
A cold stare is good or if he repeated himself ‘what an odd thing to say’ or ‘why do you ask?’
‘Do you always ask such rude questions that are non of your business?’
Sorry but he’s being rude so I’d serve it back 🤷♀️
Pause, look him in the eye and say “wow”. Then change the subject.
“Why would you ask that aloud, in front of people? Are you feeling ok?” Then you look to your husband “Do you think your dad is feeling ok? That was a weird question to ask.” Then you look back at to your FIL and tell him you hope he is feeling better soon, and maybe he should get a check up. Then you chang the subject. “The lasagna here is delicous” and wink at your FIL.