So i came across this video in that he is saying that if we buy things for ourselves which are comparitively expensive we might get the idea that we are worth having it especially people who are having low self esteem..
Rich people have this unconsciously in their mind ( by rich i mean people who are actually made money through invesments and business not that overnight craps )
It really made me think about it.
What are your thoughts?
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Ya 100% it helps. Even in ww2 they made the soldiers shave everyday not for vanity but that bit of discipline to anchor them
You have something nice gotta take care of it, commit to taking care of it today / tomorrow. Like dressing up for a job interview gotta believe it first
> if we buy things for ourselves which are comparatively expensive we might get the idea that we are worth having them
It’s like that Lamborghini in Tai Lopez’s (rented) garage — it’s a reminder that dreams are still possible, and we got a right to chase ’em.
Seriously, though. Sometimes, that expensive thing is an upgrade that lets you reach your full potential in whatever passion project you have going on. On the other hand, it might just be an expensive wall ornament. It all depends on what you get out of it.
Poor mindset people get a thrill from buying things, from the act of spending, and fantasizing about how having the thing is going to change their lives for the better, either directly beneficial to them or by showing it off to others. It’s not about the value itself, as money is worth more in the bank than spent on any sort of good.
I think that person got it backwards. We usually have ideas in our heads and then we enforce or (r)eject these ideas by acting in line or against them. You have the idea in your head that you have potential to grow and improve your (and others) life. You can reinforce the idea of you being a source of good by acting accordingly. investing in yourself. Or you can act against that, waste all the money which will over an extended amount of time will lead to you developing a new idea about this. For example you conclude that money is not necessary anyways to improve the lot of people (some will call that “cope”/”rationalizing impulsive spending habits”) or that the forces you are up against are too powerful and putting any money towards investing in yourself would be wasted anyways.
Someone said it this way: People don’t have ideas, ideas have people.
I guess that can be seen as a good way to look at it, although not entirely true. Having a song stuck in your head, being in love and not stopping to think about that person or being heart broken unable to move on, after a traumatic event when you develop a phobia/anxiety against something much broader than what has actually happened is also not an idea you decided to pick up and if we look at people trying to rid themselves of ideologies/cults and addictions not induced by substances… it seems pretty clear that we are not in total control of our mind.
So I’d say: We pick up the idea of “we are worth something = something that is worth it justifies putting a lot of resources to it = investing in ourselves elevates us” and by putting that into proper practice, we can enforce that idea. But if we get it wrong and spend the money on rewarding us all the time as if we are worth all that, this would lead to entitlement. “I’m worth it all because look at how I treat myself, someone worth nothing wouldn’t be treated like that” assuming that we alone are determining our value to everyone – as if we are not social creatures but gods who just “manifest” whatever we see fit.
I think it makes a little bit of sense. An ex of mine would always get on me because I don’t buy anything nice for myself, and she knew I had a really, really low self esteem. I don’t think she understood that buying things for other people (in this case, her) make me feel better about myself, as well as that the things I do buy (literally only food and vidya, non essentially) make me feel happy as well, even though it’s evidently very unhealthy and it does make me feel really guilty at times lol.
Money and possessions aren’t always really a huge indicator for self esteem though. Wealthy people kill themselves every day, I mean, look at how many celebrity suicides they are, and they have pretty much everything anyone could ask for.
The way we see ourselves is very internal and ingrained in our minds. Opinions, especially of ourselves, are especially tough stains to scrub off the brain. We may hold all of these accomplishments and we could always look back and genuinely smile at the things we have done, but… what else is left? I’m sure a lot of us have thought this way, because I know I have. Things sometimes feel empty, and while luxuries and materialistic possessions offer us a lot of gratification, it’s only very temporary.
For example, I’ll sit down and play a new game I picked up, and find it super fun or super frustrating, but neither outcome will matter because those are only temporary feelings we have. What really matters is what’s at the core–Us. These possessions don’t change us, we change us.
Like Electronic_Stop pointed out, WWII soldiers shaved every day because it’s an anchor to themselves. Discipline matters. If you buy yourself these nice multi-hundred dollar clothes, you’ll feel nice, but then the novelty wears off. It’ll be like dipping a turd in a bucket of paint, not to call anybody a turd lol.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that money can buy happiness, but it won’t always. You can have all of the money in the world, but in the end, it’s what’s going on in your head that dictates how you truly feel. Fixing self esteem comes with fixing yourself, first and foremost, because that bougie lava lamp isn’t going to fix it.
I’d also like to think that people who are willing to spend more on themselves have inherently better self esteems, since they see themselves as important and deserving to receive such things, which loops back to the quote. But of course, I could be wrong, as my self esteem is not high, and I do not buy a whole lot of materialistic things for myself.
Typed this up at 4 in the morning, so sorry if this isn’t concise, like, at all.