Hearing horror stories of men over the age of 40 losing their homes and half their life’s savings to a woman because the judge grants her half of everything just because she was married to a man who did all the work had me thinking about how would someone potentially prevent the same thing from happening to him.
To those who had walked the walk. What kind of advice do you have for someone who don’t want to walk YOUR walk lol cos it sounded like it sucked.
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How old are you that you just heard of this? lol
You get a “pre-nup” written by an attorney.
Pre-nup.
Pre-nup.
Do not get married in the first place.
“the man did all the work” is why guys end up in divorce court far too often.
Even if your partner is full time stay at home parent, thry are doing a lot of work to make life easier. You are far less likely to end up in divorce court if you recognise and value your partners contribution to the family
Unless you have married a narcissist of course, but there were a bunch of red flags that you ignored to get to that point.
If in the states. pre-up doesn’t work and could get tossed out in court due to bias standards of the court system. They’ll rob you through your wife. Your #1 enemy is the ones out there. It’s the one who sleep right next to you every night and left door unlocked on purpose for the enemies out there to come in to do the dirty work.
only way to win is . Get rid of everything for cheap quietly before it happens. Transfer it over to someone else as ownership. Quit your job.. She gets pennies on a dollar for everything left over. They all can’t get shiet if you don’t have nothing for them to steal from.. lol They can threat and be all aggressive they want as long as they all got the energy for it. they’re just wasting their time.
Have a meeting with every lawyer in your area the more expensive the better.. and then get a lawyer and asks
Start an llc.”sell” it all to the llc.
Marry the right woman. Or have nothing to start with.
I can’t speak for everywhere, but where I live the asset split begins once they are either married, or have lived together in a marriage-like relationship for 2+ years.
That means if you buy/inherit a home together, half will be hers. Whereas if you enter into the relationship with a home, it is completely yours.
The same goes for all other assets. Money earned, vehicles purchased, etc.
While you could get a pre-nup, they are not ironclad. They can be challenged, and can potentially be overruled in court.
Really the only way to shield your assets would be to either not get married in the first place, or live in separate residences so that you are never considered common-law. Or alternatively you could get all your assets lined up before marrying so that the only thing you would lose are investment earnings. That requires you to be loaded though.
You’d better go see a really really good lawyer that knows how to do this and have it stick cause it’s already too late. This should be a mandatory course in Grade 12.
Easy.
Don’t get married to begin with.
Hiding assets from divorce court is also known as “fraud” and looked poorly upon.
And what you can or can’t do varies a lot by state. In many places, each party keeps what they brought to the marriage and then split what was gained during the marriage.
Which is, ultimately, fair.
If you don’t want that, come up with a prenup and hope the other party will agree to it.
DM me
Didn’t get married. Going on 20 years together. Financially separate.
Yeah, don’t get married. Pre-nups are shit and get tossed as all one side needs to claim is incompetence or coercion.
Marry overseas but officially you are just house mates in your home country
Talk to a lawyer. reddit isn’t the place for legal advice or options.
Met in 89. Had our first child in 90. Married in 91. When we met I was making X$/year – about the same as she was. She had quite an impact on me over the years. By the time our third child was in Kindergarten I was making X$/month. Like I said – quite an impact.
Just after the tech bubble burst, – when we were somehow still rolling along she said: Babe, Amazon is down from 300 to 30, what do you say we buy some. That one investment – would more than pay for the house we live in – for cash.
So yeah – that woman I met and fell in love with 35+ years ago – the great Mom to our 3 kids – had a big impact on me financially. And she’s lying in bed next to me as I type. Oh – and that other thing – about married people and sex. If you marry the right person that part of things hums along nicely straight thru.
And fwiw – if she hadn’t kept the house/kids/my entire environment ticking along like the proverbial swiss watch – I could never have handled what I did work wise. Not the mechanics of it and surely not the emotional stress of it.
Isn’t the only answer a trust?
Take a leaf out of the book of Achraf Hakimi (professional footballer) and put every asset in your Mum’s name.
Is this some sort of ploy to fuck with this sub? Lol.
Accountant here.
The longer the time horizon the better this would work. Whenever you withdraw money from the ATM, take out a little extra. That extra cash gets hidden somewhere only you know about.
OP needs to just stay single
Don’t have any assets in your own name. Get your parents, or one of your parents, to buy a house in their name then rent it to you, ensuring they’re fully at arms length with it. Treat it exactly like you would any other rental (ie no diy renovations or maintenance). That way, if you ever get divorced it doesn’t belong to you so can’t be included as part of the marital assets. Other than that, don’t accumulate any other assets. If you want to have savings, withdraw cash from your bank account and keep it in a box at your parents or somewhere you know it will be safe.