How did you realize that you needed to show up for yourself better, and what are some ways that you currently do that?
How do you show up for yourself?
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How did you realize that you needed to show up for yourself better, and what are some ways that you currently do that?
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Suuuch a good question! The key tells you need self-care is psychosomatic symptoms like persistent headaches, stomach aches, anxiety and depression. How I show up for myself? I write lists of positive aspects most every morning. Total game changer. I now often catch myself saying ‘I’m so happy to be alive’ which would have made me cringe in the past. I take walks while listening to my best music, and sneak in a childish twirl often during the walk. The most important activity in my opinion is having a creative outlet: writing, baking, singing and painting are mine💕
When I realized I had been treating myself poorly because of the beliefs I formed from how I was treated by my caregivers in childhood, it hit me how much I had internalized.
Now, some of the ways I show up for myself are:
Appreciating myself in both the small and big ways
Making sure I’m heard and understood, whether through journaling, talking things out, or exploring through inquiry
Honoring my No’s. If something or someone feels draining or out of alignment, I allow myself the freedom and power to walk away
I show up for myself by setting small boundaries, taking time to rest and doing things that actually make me happy, even if it’s just for a few minutes a day.
By giving myself the recognition of everything I ever wanted as a child.
I finally decided I wanted a healthy body and to give myself some longevity in my life. I can’t even tell you what made me realize it, but one day, I just woke up and decided that I needed to hit the gym three days a week, not with a weight loss goal or a goal to look a certain way, but just because I needed my heart and lungs to improve how they were working. It’s the first time in my life I actually enjoy working out and am motivated to go to the gym on a routine basis. Been at it for over a year now, which is the longest I’ve ever maintained a gym routine.
By reminding myself no one is coming to save me 🙂 You gotta drag your ass outta bed and just try your hardest. There’s no other way worth living.
I realized I needed to support myself better when I noticed I was depending too much on outside validation — waiting for other people to reassure me before I could feel okay. It hit me that no one is around 24/7, so I had to learn to be that steady voice for myself.
Right now, the ways I support myself are:
It’s not perfect, but I’ve learned that supporting myself means treating myself like someone I care about, not someone I’m constantly trying to fix.
1: saying no to commitments.
you should only be doing things you LIKE to do do on your free time. not wht you feel obligated to do.
2: being disciplined.
okay, the one commitment you should be honoring the most is the one you promised to yourself. especially in regards to health and self improvement.
By taking care of myself, like hygiene, chores, looking out for myself in ways. I used to not have routines and I didn’t realize how badly I was neglecting myself, and how some of these things caused other, unforeseen burdens; that it’s not normal to self-neglect.
Take my meds. Go to therapy. Practice self compassion and radical self love.